Omg...people really need to mind their own business...

[myfoursonsks]

So, the mother of one of my 14 year old's friends just called me.  She asked me what was going on and that my son was supposed to be going to her house today to spend the holiday weekend.  I was like wtf?!  She was saying it like she has custody of my kid or something.

Anyway, I guess my son told her that he would have to find out if it is alright with me.  She doesn't speak English very well, so she may have misunderstood.  Anyway, I tell her that I didn't approve of it and that he got grounded this week and wouldn't be going anywhere.  (For anyone that say my other post, my son blatantly lied to me a couple of nights ago and it was a fairly serious lie)

So her response was, "Oh, it is Thanksgiving.  He can't be in trouble. It is a time for all families to have fun."  Ummm...excuse me...he should have thought about that before he lied to me.  He is 14.  He knows better.  So, as she is telling me that I can't ground my son for Thanksgiving.  I just finally tell her that I don't let my kids spend the holidays with other families and that my kids will be celebrating with me.

Is it wrong for him to be grounded just because it is a holiday?  Shouldn't he be with his family anyway and not someone else?

[myfoursonsks]

bump

 

[JulyBabies]

Definitely should be with family. I don't know what being grounded entails in your house, but I would probably let him off for the day- let him watch tv, music, internet etc.

[madmomof5]

he should be with his family, he should continue being grounded if he was to begin with, punishments aren't supposed to be carefully planned around them and last, but not least, she should really have just let it go! 

[grantsmommy23]

I don't think you should skip punishment just because it's a holiday.  If he lied this close to turkey day then that is his fault.  I also agree that you should be with family (whenever possible of course) for the holidays.  My cousins always had friends come over and I never understood why they weren't with their own families.  I know my son will never spend a holiday at a friends house.  That is crazy imo.

[luv2wahm]

She needs to mind her own business...I believe like you do...holidays like Thanksgiving are spent with the family. In addition, a holiday doesn't give you a "free" pass from a grounding...

[PrOuD_fL_MoMmY]

I DONT THINK ITS WRONG FOR HIM TO BE GROUNDED SO CLOSE TO A HOLIDAY. BEING CLOSE TO A HOLIDAY DIDNT STOP HIM FROM BREAKING A RULE.  I DO THINK KIDS SHOULD BE WITH THEIR OWN FAMILIES ON HOLIDAYS..BUT AT HIS AGE { IF HE WASNT IN TROUBLE } I MIGHT CONSIDER ALLOWING MY SON TO SPEND SOME OF THE DAY AT HIS FRIENDS HOUSE.

[atowers]

 holidays or not, if he did wrong, he need to be punished for it.  plus, if the holidays are about family in yours, then YES he should stay with your family.. the only time i ever spent my thanksgivings  away from my family was when i was in a serious relationship and his family invited me over.  that's back when i thought i was actually going to marry that asshole. 

you're not in the wrong mama, you're doing good.  she needs to learn to keep that nose to herself.

[jodyann2]

your the mom. you know whats best. if he is grounded.. im sure its for a very good reason. you dont need to justify yourself on here or anywhere else.... i would be pissed at both of them for thinking otherwise!!

[mysticblyss]

I personally don't think it's wrong to punish him, like you said knew better. It was however wrong for her to expect him to join her family and not his own, when she straight up said that the holiday was for family .... I would thing DUH is in order right there on her part.

[Shy_Dia]

i mean, he's not REALLY grounded is he? if he never made plans to spend thankgiving at their house..and if he never lied to you a few days ago- you would be doing the same thing you plan on doing right-- eating dinner together, probably putting up decorations (most people i know do the christmas stuff the day of or after thanksgiving)... he'd be apart of all that stuff, right? or would you make him eat dinner in his room away from everyone, no celebrating in anything, no pie/desserts, etc? if he's seperated from the family, on a holiday-- then that sucks cuz it is like being grounded.. but if he's still apart of the family, doing family activities.. i dont really see that as being grounded

for me-- even tho my family sucks for the holidays, i know that my son wont be spending a holiday at another friends house. maybe in the AM, but not the entire day. but thats just me.