I have a friend who says that she has been around kids her whole life. She compares this to understanding what a mom goes through because she has taken care of them. This is what she said below(copied from facebook msg)
My one friend I did help her with her kids. I even got up with her youngest child. So yes in a way I do know what its like.
I realize she said "in a way" she knows what it's like.
How woul you take it? Btw I am not bashing my friend, just venting. I am hoping this will not be a drama post lol.
It's not the same, but it's the closest she can get without actually being a mom, so I'd cut her some slack for trying to relate at least.
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Well, I was a nanny for kids for all of my high school and college years. I had those kids 6 days a week, if I wasn't in school, I was with the kids from when they got up until they were in bed. So I had some clue as to what it was like. But can I say that what I did when I was in school is the same as now? Oh no! I don't get a break, I can't call in sick, and I don't have a day off! If I'm not at work, I have the kids. Not to mention that now I have the house to care for, a hubby to care for, bills to pay. But thank God no more homework!
So, yeah, I would say in a way she understands what it's like to raise a kid, but not a clue what it fully means until it's your own kid! Honestly, I wouldn't be mad, but I don't have a clue as to why she made that comment. Honestly, I felt much more prepared when I had kids because of my experiences.
I don't know I have been around kids all my life also. I mean I really raised my siblings when I lived at home. I got up with them, put them to bed, washed ironed there clothes, dropped them off at school(not at 14 of course but up until I moved out), did homework, and cried at night from the stress so if her experiences are like mine she could possibly know whats shes talking about. Being a mother to mmy own kids is so much easier because one I have dh, and I am not 14 and noone yelling at me telling me I am doing it wrong all the time.
Quoting mamapaparazzi:
It's not the same, but it's the closest she can get without actually being a mom, so I'd cut her some slack for trying to relate at least.
Yeah I even told her that with all her experience and how good she is with kids will help make her a great mom someday.
Thank you for shedding light and not bashing me!
Btw I am pregnant with our first child, due in April. I feel that there is so much I don't know even if I have been around chidren.
She is the oldest so she has helped with her siblings. I did not have that. I am the youngest. I also realize that she could offer advice.
Quoting misssy2000:
I don't know I have been around kids all my life also. I mean I really raised my siblings when I lived at home. I got up with them, put them to bed, washed ironed there clothes, dropped them off at school(not at 14 of course but up until I moved out), did homework, and cried at night from the stress so if her experiences are like mine she could possibly know whats shes talking about. Being a mother to mmy own kids is so much easier because one I have dh, and I am not 14 and noone yelling at me telling me I am doing it wrong all the time.
Wow, you really had to grow up fast! I believe that you knew what it was like before you had children.
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on Nov. 26, 2009 at 3:38 AM