A friend passed along this Time article on "helicopter" parenting as she had not heard that term before. At times, I find it a struggle to balance when to let DD "fall" so she can pick herself up but recognize the benefits of letting her figure it out for herself.
The Growing Backlash Against Overparenting
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Sorry, nope don't have that problem. I let my kids fall down and get that scraped knee. Then I pick them up. If you catch them before they fall they will never know what the real world is like. They will walk around in a cloud that makes them believe that the world will always catch them. I have long believed that parents now a days go overboard in the protection for their kids. They aren't letting them learn any real world skills or resposibilities. They are in the long run inhibiting their self confidence because the kids don't know that it ill be ok if they fail they just have to try again. Now parents are fighting over a b or an a in classes, instead of just being happy their kid passed. Parents need to take a back seat and let their kids learn certain things on their own. Protection is not always what is best for your kids. JMO
Not really-because I know that everyone needs to learn from mistakes, and I will not be one of those parents that wont let their child do anything or think on anything for themselves.
I would be the opposite of the helicopter mom. I think the term is free range patrenting.
I give my kids lots of space and respect to make decisions that I know they are capable of making.
But from what I see around me...many parents are having a hard time finding that balance.
i don't go to the extreme... but yes, i do struggle trying to find a balance.
i have a difficult situation.
i have a child who has high functioning autism.... which is a confusing condition.
he has a genius level i.q... yet lacked the visual receptive skills to cross the street unaided until he was 10!
imagine that... having a child who can understand advanced physics... but can't cross the street without being hit by a car.
then.. watch his 4 year old brother approach the road, look both ways.. mentally process the speeding car and wait? jesus... it's been a rough road at times.
he has yet to break a bone.. or even have stitches. the instant that child learned how to cross the road unaided... i sent him out to play with the neighborhood teens.
yes.. teens!
teens that know my son.. understand my son and have taken the time to help him blend in with the other kids.
i told him right out... kids from the seventies were on crutches at least once by second grade... i've over parented you.. go fall out of a tree or something! lol
of course, him being literal he looked at me and said "nice.. mom of the year wants me to go kill myself"
kids.. you can't eat them.... the state says so.
ADMIN FOR AUTISM, ASPERGER'S, PDD AWARENESS.
All I have to say is about damn time. I'm sick of being a minority!
This is us as well.
Quoting imthatgirl728:
I would be the opposite of the helicopter mom. I think the term is free range patrenting.
I give my kids lots of space and respect to make decisions that I know they are capable of making.
But from what I see around me...many parents are having a hard time finding that balance.
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- jbs_mommy
on Nov. 26, 2009 at 8:46 AM