On Tuesday I went and helped my Mother In Law clean her house for Thanksgiving. Yes she paid me for doing it, but I don't get paid nearly as well as most of the people who clean houses. Anyways.. We were talking about Christmas Cards and she had hers done at Walgreens this year with 2 pictures of our boys on there. So, it looked really cute. So, then on the side it read, "Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. Elizabeth, Russell, Brandon & Zachary." But my name was not even on it. I know that she did not forget to leave me out, and I know that if they accadently left it out she would of noticed and said something about it. She is the kind of women that will sit there and look at a bill at the restrant and make sure that it looks right, and it will talk her 10 minutes to do it, and she asks questions about everything. So, I know that is the way that it was suppose to be.. Oh well, maybe I am not a part of the family, maybe I am just the dang maid that takes care of her Son, and makes grand children for her! Maybe I am her own personal maid to come help her clean her house.. Goodness! Why do MIL have to be so mean sometimes. Oh and guess what, I am going over there today to help her make Thanksgiving dinner. Oh how nice of me, now I am her chef....
I know that it is Thanksgiving and I know that I should be happy and I am, but I am a little sad and annoyed over this...
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Brandon and Zachary
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Wow thats rude of her,sounds like she is just using you.Maybe you need to say something about it but dont be rude.Just say something like I noticed on the cards you have everyones name but mine.See what she says and go from there.
Umm, so she put her name, your DH's and your kids names and left you out? That's just wrong and totally bizzare. My mom sends a family pic of all of us (my parents, me, DH, the girls and the dogs) every year. But if I received a card like your MIL, I would think it's totally weird. I'd ask her wth!
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If you don't want to say something to her. Then I would show you DH and let him know how you fell about it. So that it can be taking care of. I hope that this helps if not there here is a BUMP to. By the way Happy Thanksgiving.
I am sure that she will show DH tonight after dinner, and I am hoping that he sees that my name is not on there. I don't know if he will notice or not, but I will try to bring it up to him then. I do not want to start a big family fight, but I do know that it is rude that she did that. I would think that it is a mistake but she was holding the card and showing me, and she was looking at it herself then so I know that she kept my name out for who knows what reason. If she was going to leave someone out, maybe she would of been better off to just leave everyone out but her. When I do the cards I do not even mention her name in the Christmas cards, and maybe that upsets her, but she never told me this, and we live in different house and so I don't know why I would put her name on our cards.. But I feel that if you are going to put family names on the card, you put everyone on the card. She used to do it up until last year, so I am wondering what people are going to think when they get the card and they do not see my name on it. They are probably going to think something happened like I died or I left my DH..
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Im a bitch in that sense and I would tell my MIL that she is NOT using pics of my kids if my name is not on there. I would grab the cards and rip them in front of her. My first though is Does she have some sort of mental disorder that she cant let go of her son. That she thinks that she is the only woman in his life or what? IDK. I have a really mean, rude MIL. And yes she has like 5 different diagnosed mental disorders so that makes her even more crazy and mean. She can help it meds would help if she took them.
I AM A SAHM OF 2 WONDERFUL CHILDREN. LOVING WIFE OF 2 YEARS. I BREASTFED SWITCHED TO FORMULA WITH BOTH OF MY CHILDREN. I BELIEVE IN CRYING IT OUT AFTER 2 MONTHS OLD, SPANKINGS WHEN NEEDED, I LET MY FAMILY EAT JUNK FOOD IF THEY WANT IT, GAVE MY DD'S WHOLE HALLOWEEN, AND EASTER BASKET TO HER TILL THE CANDY WAS GONE. I AM A SMOKER TRYING TO QUIT, DRINK ON OCCASION, LOVE TO COOK, MY HOME IS ALWAYS CLEAN "IF" SOME ONE SHOWS UP, NEVER LATE TO ANYTHING KIND OF MOMMY AND WIFE. ITS JUST WHO I AM.
I don't understand your post sorry. Why are you upset? Was her sons name on the card? (Really I don't get it..) Or is it signed from her and the grandkids? Do you send out your own cards? Also don't understand the problems with the Holidays. I would gladly help my mother or my MIL w/cleaning and cooking for the Holidays. It can be a lot of work for one person and I know since I do it . How nice it must be to have her cooking and cleaning so you and your family can have a nice Holiday together. Why wouldn't you WANT to help ? I can't even fathom having my MIL Pay me to help out with a family thing..sorry.
Thats how my mother in law was. She would tell my SIL who was 6 to ask my husband to hold our daughter even though I was holding her. She acted like my husband did all the work and as we all know the men have no hand in the labor an 9 months of weight gain. They just use their head (hint hint).
My husband and I told his mother that she needs to accept me as Jennafyr's mother and not just a person. She has since than changed. So maybe you and your s/o needs to talk about your feelings and than tell her.
the card is signed Grandma, Dad, and Kids - no mention of mom at all. that's bizarre and would piss me off too - where does grandma get off sending holiday cards for Dad and Kids? not her place.
Quoting Tatum2U:
I don't understand your post sorry. Why are you upset? Was her sons name on the card? (Really I don't get it..) Or is it signed from her and the grandkids? Do you send out your own cards? Also don't understand the problems with the Holidays. I would gladly help my mother or my MIL w/cleaning and cooking for the Holidays. It can be a lot of work for one person and I know since I do it . How nice it must be to have her cooking and cleaning so you and your family can have a nice Holiday together. Why wouldn't you WANT to help ? I can't even fathom having my MIL Pay me to help out with a family thing..sorry.
That sounds like something my MIL would pull. She actually DID pull it one year, but didn't put mine or hubby's name on the cards. They were a pic of my oldest and said "Merry Christmas from Larry, Annette, and Colton" I was PISSED. Needless to say she waisted her money because I ripped everyone of them up and told her to try again because MY kid does NOT belong to THEM.
I wouldn't go help her, actually I'm NOT going to help my MIL, we're not even GOING over there because my hubby has finally realized what his parents are. It's terrible, but they want to drive us apart because they think THEY will raise MY kids if hubby and I split up. NOT gonna happen. If I were DEAD I'd be a better parent than both of them together still. I'm thankful my hubs has seen the light!
I was going to be helping my mom make dinner, but now it's cancelled because my dad and grandpa were admitted to the hospital yesterday.
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on Nov. 26, 2009 at 9:28 AM