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[USMCBride08]

 Ugh. I hate my inlaws. They suck. Really. We haven't heard from them in MONTHS. So the fact that they haven't called today is NO big deal to me. I haven't heard from them asking about my CHILD in...well, ever. Whatever right?

WELL dh talked to his exstepsister. Confusing? LOL she's his dads second wifes daughter. And he's now on the 3rd marriage. So in normal relationships, dh wouldnt be in contact with her. BUT he calls her sis and her mom "mom". =]

Well. she told him that his dad called her to wish her a happy thanksgiving... and now dh is upset because ONCE again, he's shown that dh isnt important... And THAT caused a big fight with us because he was stomping around like a brat and driving me NUTS.

So im tempted to chop his head off with a carving knife.

Happy thanksgiving to US. it was SUPPOSED to be a happy day since its DS' 1st, but even HE wont go near daddy cuz hes being so nasty to us.

grrr

[carygrantfan]

i know it's tough to realize that your parents are sh*** and really just don't care about you, but that's what your husband has to come to terms with.  maybe professional counseling?  i bet he grew up always trying to win daddy's approval and never getting it. 

we have been estranged from my husband's family for several years.  my husband is upset by this and wants to blame me.  i've come to realize that we can't solve many of "our" problems until my husband deals with his dysfunctional relationship with his family which he pretty much created with his own passive-aggressive behavior.  hopefully your husband won't let this spill into the rest of your lives. 

good luck.

[USMCBride08]

i know it is. and yep, hes been trying to win BOTH their approval. his mom AND dad.

and i watch him fail. EVERY time. I know why he does it, i used to be like that with MY father, but i grew up and realized it was pointless.

i just cant take this crap every holiday. I mean, youd think hed play with HIS child, but NO hes moping.

I can see it happening to my child. Daddy is too busy trying to win HIS parents over, he forgets about his OWN child.

And theres no way in heck i could get him in counseling. hes too stubborn

Quoting carygrantfan:

i know it's tough to realize that your parents are sh*** and really just don't care about you, but that's what your husband has to come to terms with.  maybe professional counseling?  i bet he grew up always trying to win daddy's approval and never getting it. 

we have been estranged from my husband's family for several years.  my husband is upset by this and wants to blame me.  i've come to realize that we can't solve many of "our" problems until my husband deals with his dysfunctional relationship with his family which he pretty much created with his own passive-aggressive behavior.  hopefully your husband won't let this spill into the rest of your lives. 

good luck.

[omgamomie]

Oh momma you always go drama in your life!! lol I hope he gets out of his bad mood soon!! Tell him that he is a better dad than his dad and that his lil guy deserves to have a good 1st thanksgiving!!

[neenerashley]

I dont blame him for being in a bad mood. Just tell him he has his family, you and your son.

[USMCBride08]

its so depressing. i used to have such a CALM, peaceful life before i married him..

i miss it =[

Quoting omgamomie:

Oh momma you always go drama in your life!! lol I hope he gets out of his bad mood soon!! Tell him that he is a better dad than his dad and that his lil guy deserves to have a good 1st thanksgiving!!

[Metalmommaof1]

i know how you feel about him not being nice for the holiday. my dh woke up about an hour ago in a  bad mood and i told him that today was going well for me and dd and i didnt want a crabass to ruin it. guess what he just went back to bed. so dinner is for me and dd instead of the whole family. i hate it when he is like this

[AmandaJeanne]

it must just be something about men...i wouldnt really say my dh tries to win the approval of his family, but whenever anything goes wrong, with family or anything else he mopes around, forgets about his son, and takes everything out on me.

[USMCBride08]

LOL well he snapped right out when i told him i would make him candied yams if hed grow a pair and quit whining like a baby lol

immediate transformation =]

Quoting Metalmommaof1:

i know how you feel about him not being nice for the holiday. my dh woke up about an hour ago in a  bad mood and i told him that today was going well for me and dd and i didnt want a crabass to ruin it. guess what he just went back to bed. so dinner is for me and dd instead of the whole family. i hate it when he is like this

[PLATINUM_BEAUTY]

That has to suck for him though.  I am sure he is really hurt to the core by it.  Do not let them come between the two of you though.  Seriously, I would throw my arms around him... tell him how sorry you are that you two were fighting.  Let him know how sorry you are that his parents hurt him and tell him how much you love him.  He needs to hear it I am sure.