Discipline Issues

[Jaylynmamaof2]

I have a few questions about appropriate discipline,, my daughter aubrey is 3 anything I ask her to do or tell her to do is always a big fight it always results in her sticking her tounge out at me or screaming no I want my daddy...... well the thing is daddy left after she was born and she has had no contact with him at all............. I have tried time outs dont phase her i have spanked her dosent phase her I am at my wits end what can I do please help im at my wits end

[MixedCooke]

I am a SuperNanny and nanny 911 fan--they all result in the timeout, you place them there, tell them why, tell them for how long and leave them there and ignore them.  If you give in and stay there or yell at them, you are giving them back the control.  Just keep trying, it does eventually work.

[Gailll]

Punishments like time outs and hitting do not teach good behavior. At best in some children they stop behavior. In most children punishment makes kids have worse behavior, makes them resent their parents and the child and parents aren't happy.

It's called authoritarian parenting when you rely on punishment. Psychologists know this form of parenting doesn't work Authoritative parenting is the most effective form of parenting. For more info go to google and look up authoritative parenting.

That's theory. Right now you need to learn new parenting skills. Love & Limits is a practical little book that is a great start. It's written by Elizabeth Crary and she has a website called Star Parenting. This book may change your life.