So yesterday all our thanksgiving plans fell through and we ended up going to my DH's friend's mother's house for thanksgiving. we'll call her "D". Well i swear D likes to push people to see how far people will let her go.
for example, my DH was best friends with her younger son in high school, he passed away in a car accident years ago, and my DH wanted to name our middle child after him so i agreed. (now in restrospect i wish we haddn't) because they now share a name D thinks that our son is like the reincarnation of her son or something, the FIRST time i met her was when our son was about 5 months old and she comes in my house and grabs him out of my arms and starts saying how she is going to take him home and raise him herself and blah blah blah. shes always comparing our son to hers.
well anyway our little girl is 8 months old, we went over to her house yesterday and while we were eating she started to comment on how our daughter must be hungry so she picks her up out of the playpen i asked her several times if she wanted our DD's baby food that i had but she completely ignored me and started feeding our DD off her plate feeding her the deviled part of her deviled eggs and her greenbean casserole and anything else somewhat soft that she had on her plate.
THEN starts talking to my DD how "Mommy doesn't like me feeding you my food but she's too much of a pussy to say anything" OMG i was trying to not start anything expecially since it wasn't my house but good grief! And my DH just sat there and acted like it wasn't upsetting me. i flat out told her i would rather have her eat her own baby food. she hasn't gotten to chunky babyfood yet, much less table foods that are heavily seasoned. GGGGGRRRRRRRR and of course everyone ignores me cause i'm the over protective mother. i've heard of people doing this to mothers but this is the first time its happened to me!
the only thing you can do.. is PUT HER IN HER PLACE!
She is not her mother and there for doesn't get to CHOOSE how to do anything for her. She may ASK... but unless she'd like you guys to stop coming around... she has to respect your AUTHORITY as a mother!
I AM....
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OMG that p*ssy part would have sent me over the edge. My entire family would have been leaving out the door in two seconds flat. If hubby didn't want to come he would have been dragged by his manhood until he cooperated or it fell off! She would never have to worry about setting foot in my home again either, there are just some things you don't say and that would have to be one of them at the top of the list.
Good grief I'm ready to bitch slap her and I don't even know what state your in.
Quoting MomX04:
OMG that p*ssy part would have sent me over the edge. My entire family would have been leaving out the door in two seconds flat. If hubby didn't want to come he would have been dragged by his manhood until he cooperated or it fell off! She would never have to worry about setting foot in my home again either, there are just some things you don't say and that would have to be one of them at the top of the list.
Good grief I'm ready to bitch slap her and I don't even know what state your in.
I agree. That would be the last time I was in her house for a LONG time!
We're in northern MN lol. i would have left except she was our ride home. :( my DH actually told me to let it slide! if looks could kill...
Quoting MomX04:
OMG that p*ssy part would have sent me over the edge. My entire family would have been leaving out the door in two seconds flat. If hubby didn't want to come he would have been dragged by his manhood until he cooperated or it fell off! She would never have to worry about setting foot in my home again either, there are just some things you don't say and that would have to be one of them at the top of the list.
Good grief I'm ready to bitch slap her and I don't even know what state your in.
You're better than me cause I would have set something on fire and it wouldn't have been wood. Next time your husband wants to go over there, let him go alone, you don't need that kind of crap and deserve much better.
Quoting northernmommy:
We're in northern MN lol. i would have left except she was our ride home. :( my DH actually told me to let it slide! if looks could kill...
Quoting MomX04:
OMG that p*ssy part would have sent me over the edge. My entire family would have been leaving out the door in two seconds flat. If hubby didn't want to come he would have been dragged by his manhood until he cooperated or it fell off! She would never have to worry about setting foot in my home again either, there are just some things you don't say and that would have to be one of them at the top of the list.
Good grief I'm ready to bitch slap her and I don't even know what state your in.
Either tell her what you think, or forget about it. That's all you can do, nothing will come from you thinking about it over and over and just getting more mad about it.
Well short of the dirty word, it sounds like she's just a nice lady trying to cope with her grief and maybe some loneliness through your children. After all you did say you were there as a result of plans that fell through so out of the goodness of her heart she let you eat at her table. I would ignore her "craziness" as it's not a regular part of your life.
ETA: and she drove you home? Suck it up!
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on Nov. 27, 2009 at 11:54 AM