I just want to be left alone about it...vent

[Luna091306]

I dropped off my dd to Mimi and Papa's (my mom and dad) this morning so I could go to work. My dad proceeded to lecture me about my life. He went on and on about all the mistakes I have made (my SO, my dd, and now buying a new car) and how I need to just grin and bear it so I can finish school and get a "real" job. Well, I've already informed him that I was offered a promotion that I will get in January at my current place of employment (a bread company). I will start out making more than I would as a nurse. I can always go back to school but I need this job right now. It's in the best interest of my family. I've already accepted it and it's a done deal. He then lectured me about how it was a mistake to take the job because I could get hurt and not be able to work anymore. It's like nothing I do is ever good enough. He bitches that I don't make enough money and now he's bitching because I didn't choose the right career. I still have at least 2 and a half years of school left. I don't want to wait any longer and why should I? I've worked very hard to get where I am now. I wish he would just butt out. I NEVER ask them for money or anything other to watch dd and most of the time they do that it's because they want to not because I need them to. So I don't see what reason he has to complain with how I handle my life.   

*vent over*

[littleluvkitty]

i have a mother in law that won't stop bitching about everything all the time. i just ignore her. try ignoreing hm,

[amanda0320]

im sry he is giving you such a hard time.  sometimes parents dont seem to understand how annoying they are getting.  Im sure he just wants whats best for you but going about it in a really crappy way.  have you tried having a sit down conversation with him about how you feel?  anyways congratulations on the promotion and as far as your dad is concerned, as long as you are happy then I wouldnt put too much stock in it.

[Luna091306]

Quoting littleluvkitty:

i have a mother in law that won't stop bitching about everything all the time. i just ignore her. try ignoreing hm,

Most of the time I do. Today he just caught me off guard and it got to me a little more than usual. I am just so sick of proving myself all the time.

[mommix4]

I'm sorry, I have been there also. When me and dh were younger my father thought he had the right to "advise" us. I finnaly had to tell him that if wanted to be a part of our lives that he had to but out. It took him awile but when I hung up as soon as he started in he eventually got the hint. Good luck I know it's hard.

[jendawn1]

i would stop telling him anything about your life anymore. He will wonder why and then explain to him "what's the point you put my decisions down anyways so why tell you if i know the response." Its harsh but he's being just as nasty to you.

[sandra_t00]

My parents are the same way, and its worse now because i moved back in with them. You are lucky you're not being told often everyday like I do.

[MomX04]

Some parents are just that way and they are not going to change.  They only see things the way they see them and nothing will make them see differently.  I would just cut the conversations as short as you can and not let it bother you too much.

[crazymama0286]

My mom does that to. Its annoying. We could be doing better but we aren't doing that bad. We have a place to live a car to drive we have food to eat.

[Luna091306]

Quoting MomX04:

Some parents are just that way and they are not going to change.  They only see things the way they see them and nothing will make them see differently.  I would just cut the conversations as short as you can and not let it bother you too much.

That's what I usually do! Many times I don't answer his calls because I don't want to be interrogated about something. My mom completely understands. She apologized this morning afterwards. I didn't even see it coming. He was talking about my dd and then all of a sudden he said, "So now you have the boyfriend, the baby, and debt (car). What are you going to do about that?" and went into a rant. geez...

[Luna091306]

Quoting crazymama0286:

My mom does that to. Its annoying. We could be doing better but we aren't doing that bad. We have a place to live a car to drive we have food to eat.

Right, us too! We pay our rent and our bills. Yes, we just bought a new car but only because both of our "junkers" broke down around the same time and we didn't have a car. We didn't want to just buy another unreliable vehicle and *gasp* we could afford the car payment. Money will be tight until I get the promotion but we aren't going to go without anything.