when you visit someone- please pick up your mess! (vent)
so my mom has been over EVERY DAY for the last 4 days or so. EVERY time she is here, ALL of the dishes gets used up. there's trash everywhere. i hate it! yesterday, before i went to my boyfriend's family dinner, i cleaned up- majorly. i mean, i vacuumed the kitchen and the livingroom (basically the entire first floor). i did all teh dishes (3 times at that point cuz she left only 20 minutes before me). i wiped off the countertops, organized the fridge, swept the kitchen incase the vacuum didnt get everything. even cleaned upstairs where my brother leaves all his clothes everywhere. i left around 4.
i come home around 10pm. whats going on in my house? brothers clothes are all over again upstairs. the kitchen is just nasty. there's food all over the floor, and the countertops, the sink has like a divider thing (so there's 2 sections) BOTH of them are full of food and dishes- and trash. there's play dress up clothes and toys all over the livingroom (only thing thats allowed in the livingroom is the dressup and blocks, no toys)... i'm like WTF?!
today i leave around 1 to take my BF home (i forced him to drive my car last night. lol poor kid), but before i do- i make sure that the house is fairly clean/organized right- no clothes, no toys, dishes are done, food is put away, countertops are wiped, etc. i get home just a little bit ago (its going on 5) and what do i come home to? dress up clothes all over the place, food and trash all over the place- the floor, countertops, again the dishes are all used up. yea- we have a lot of dishes- like 15 plates, 12 bowls, a lot of cups (mugs, huge cups, small cups, plastic cups.. we even use old jelly jars as cups! lol) and like 10 things of each silverwear (10 spoons, 10 forks, etc)... the ONLY people that was here was my brother, my mom and my sister. i'm like what the fuck?! why do i fucking bother cleaning this shit up when it gets all messed up? THEY DONT EVEN LIVE HERE (well, my brother does and his only mess is the clothes on teh second floor- when he showers, he throws them in the hallway). this literally is all my mom's doing.
they left- just a little bit ago (leaving my sister here even tho i have fucking plans)- and they leave the tool box out (trying to fix a bb gun), they leave the bb gun out, there's a knife- A BUTCHER KNIFE on the counter (my sister has a problem of grabbing things and running.. and she loves to play with things that are a big no-no... aka the knife!). i'm just so fucking pissed. so now i gotta someone entertain the 2 kids- one who just doesnt listen to anything when my main focus was to do a full clean up- like get on your hands and knees and scrub the kitchen floor. i also wanted to go to walmart, but i guess thats not fucking happening. ugh
That is terrible. What is the deal with your mom? I guess I am really lucky when my mom comes over she starts cleaning my house.
You know you're a mom when you realize
that you're living for the same person you'd die for,
My children.
That is very disrespectful. I can not believe a mother would do this. There is no way I would go to my sons or daughters house and leave a mess for either of them to clean up. You need to tell you mother, that she needs to be an adult and clean up after herself.
Mom wouldn't be coming over for a couple of days. I would be "busy".
sadly, thats just my mom. she's been like this for about 10 years now. thats why i had to move outta her place. well, at least one of the main reasons... cuz she just wouldnt pick up/clean, and when i did, i'd get yelled at. i cant even hint at her cuz she wont get it. i cant tell her to clean up after her mess because 1) "i'm your mom. you need to learn to respect me" and 2) it'll just cause a big fight and drama. liek the dishes-- her hand "breaks out" with a rash.
honestly, i dont even wonder why she comes over here- think about it, if she can do this to a house she doesnt live in-- can you IMAGINE her household? yea.
i just gotta be greatful that tomorrow, her and my sister are leaving for a few months.. i just gotta focus on teaching a 12 year old kid that if he doesnt pick his shit up, its going in the trash.. starting with that damn bb gun.
Quoting Shy_Dia:
sadly, thats just my mom. she's been like this for about 10 years now. thats why i had to move outta her place. well, at least one of the main reasons... cuz she just wouldnt pick up/clean, and when i did, i'd get yelled at. i cant even hint at her cuz she wont get it. i cant tell her to clean up after her mess because 1) "i'm your mom. you need to learn to respect me" and 2) it'll just cause a big fight and drama. liek the dishes-- her hand "breaks out" with a rash.
honestly, i dont even wonder why she comes over here- think about it, if she can do this to a house she doesnt live in-- can you IMAGINE her household? yea.
i just gotta be greatful that tomorrow, her and my sister are leaving for a few months.. i just gotta focus on teaching a 12 year old kid that if he doesnt pick his shit up, its going in the trash.. starting with that damn bb gun.
LOL well you failed to impart that little bit of info. When you are dealing with an unreasonable person you can not expect them to act reasonably.
My mom is the opposite but just as annoying. My house is never clean enough for her, even after I've just cleaned it. She always finds something to complain about, something to say that makes me feel like my kids wallow in filth.
A good example... I had just spent the entire morning cleaning, seriously deep cleaning. I swept, mopped, scrubbed, vaccumed, washed, dried, everything. In my opinion, the house was sparkling! She came over right after lunch, like I was putting the kids' dirty dishes in the sink and wiping up my then 18mo daughter (she's 21mo now) while my 6yo son was in the bathrooom washing his hands and face. She started in about my dirty dishes, lectures me about mold and stuff and how it's horrible for the kids.
Another time, everything was perfect except the livingroom. This was just like a couple of weeks ago, she came to "spend time" with my kids because she never sees them (probably because she's raising my neice and nephew for my sister but that's a whole other story). The livingroom was a mess, I admit, but that's because the kids were playing there. They had toys everywhere but they were right there playing with them, it wasn't like they'd dug out all their toys and went off somewhere else.
Ugh, anyway... I'd simply tell Mom that respect is a two way street, you need to give some in order to receive some. Good luck!
I;m so sorry that you do such hard work and someone else makes it a mess agin. I feel for you. But, I don't care who did it. You bust your a$$ more then a couple times a day and this is what you get. I'd sure do some bitching. No one should be treated that way Good luck
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