millitary wives a little help please

[Caroline84]

i'm having trouble getting my ex to understand the seriousness and urgency of revising our parenting plan before my hubby is stationed and we have to move. He is being impossible. I have told him every week for the past 3 months this needs to be done and he keeps putting it off. I really would rather come to and agreement and file the paper work in court together so i don't have to do it my self and he not agree with it and try to fight me on this. i have always tried to stay civil with him and get along for our daughter's sake but he is really starting to piss me off now. I have waved the child support for him for 4 years now so he would have money to do thing with her while she is with him and i do't ask him for any thing but to spend time with her. i have sugested that he put money in an acount so when she visits him in the summer it would pay for travel fees. but he will not agree to any thing i have suggested. he is all butt hurt now and does not want her to go. we had discussed all of this before my husband signed up and he was fine with every thing but now wants to change his mind. i don't know how to get him to cooperate with out having to be a total bitch to him. he does not have the money to support her he only works two days a week and his wife is supporting him. i know she will miss him but we will have no choice but to go where they say we have to go. should i just go file the paper work my self without an agreement? i just need to know how to do this with out being a bitch to him and ruining our civil relationship. so any suggestions would help.

[Caroline84]

any one? BUMP

[lvnmylif]

You should make an appointment for mediation.  It is normally on a sliding scale so cost is not a big factor.  If you guys can both work something out with a third party kind of guiding you.  that would be the place to start.  If he does not you are going to have to file a motion with the court to be able to move out of state.  Many states are very strict on letting you move with the child unless it is going to benefit the child's life.  Stable employment opportunities is one of them.  Especially since your ex has not given you any child support.  It is very kind of you to tell him not to pay it but if he wants to play hard ball that one is in your corner.  I would in mediation offer to continue with the child support arrangement as long as he pays for the travel cost.  If he is unyielding he will end up having to pay the child support, child support arrears and probably wont be able to keep you in the state anyway.  sorry but if he wont agree to mediation hiring a lawyer is your next step.

[heavenlyangl420]

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[Sweetestgirl79]

i agree

wish i could help more but bump good luck

Quoting lvnmylif:

You should make an appointment for mediation.  It is normally on a sliding scale so cost is not a big factor.  If you guys can both work something out with a third party kind of guiding you.  that would be the place to start.  If he does not you are going to have to file a motion with the court to be able to move out of state.  Many states are very strict on letting you move with the child unless it is going to benefit the child's life.  Stable employment opportunities is one of them.  Especially since your ex has not given you any child support.  It is very kind of you to tell him not to pay it but if he wants to play hard ball that one is in your corner.  I would in mediation offer to continue with the child support arrangement as long as he pays for the travel cost.  If he is unyielding he will end up having to pay the child support, child support arrears and probably wont be able to keep you in the state anyway.  sorry but if he wont agree to mediation hiring a lawyer is your next step.

[Scottysbaby87]

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