My boyfriends mother commited suicide...
in her note i guess she put that, she was really upset with life and how everything turned out that she couldnt live with it anymore. SHe also said that because her son left her all alone for another women( me).
she has depression and she has many loose screws. She offered to pay me thousands of dollars to abort our baby, and my bf told her that he didnt want anything to do with her anymore, because she couldnt accept me and our baby into the family.
My bf and his mom talked the other day for hours on the phone and she was still saying i needed an abortion or needed to put the baby up for adoption and that she found a family who wants our baby!
well needless to say, I feel so bad, i feel like its my fault. I feel like i should just run away and have this baby on my own, but i also feel its pointless now, because his mother is gone.
We are about to move into an apt in the begining of December we have put our down payment down and everything. but i feel like i should just let him stay with his dad while he has break during school, that way i dont smother him or anything..
im just upset, even though i hated this lady, i still feel really bad for my BF and his father and the rest of thier family.. a loss is a loss...
I don't know what to say..... I'm sorry for the loss and just know it wasn't your fault. She probably had a lot of mental health issues that caused her to take her own life. You all are in my prayers! Remember you are still pregnant so try not to let the stress overwhelm you.
He is with his family right now, so when he is all done he is coming over to talk with me.
Im nervous... but he is a good guy and i know he wants to have this baby, he is so excited already. but i dont want him to blame me for this..
Quoting ArmyWifey4907:
I'm sorry to hear that =(
I don't really have any advice for you....Maybe just talk to your boyfriend, tell him what you're thinking of doing. Figure out together what you want to do.
SO VERY SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS AND THE TOUGH SITUATION IT HAS PUT YOU IN BEST OF LUCK
So sorry to hear...She had the depression problems, don't blame yourself. If it weren't you it'd be something, or someone else. Its sad she wasn't able to get the help she needed before this happened. If I were you I would just support your BF through his loss, and do whats best for your family.
((Hugs)) honey i know it feels like your fault but it isn't. she needed help. but now your bf needs you. i would encourage moving out. I think it would be good for both of you. So sorry for the loss
sorry about what happened with her. But in the other hand she is gone and maybe for good. It is not Ur fault and you shouldn't sacrifice Ur relationship with him for this. I am very sorry but like I said I don't think any of what that psycho lady did is Ur fault.
hugs ;)
i doubt he will blame you...he is her son he knows all to well if she was crazy or not (which sounds like she had some issues) THIS is his child and you are the mother of his child....he knows what it is like to not have a parent now i doubt he will come over after all of this and then say ":hey i think we should break up and you should go do this without me" im sure that woudl be the last thing he would want and a horrible blow to him if you did. Dont feel guilty its no ones fault..unless you directly killed her then you arent to blame she just couldn't deal with reality anymore. IF you have issues about this and the relationship then maybe go to a couples counseling of some sort to air it all out. GL and try not to make any drastic decisions right now that go against the original plan
My advice is to simply give him space to deal with his loss, and try not to let this dampen the joy of your new baby growing and being born. I'm sorry that he is having to go through this, but you had nothing to do with it- so have compassion for him and his family (as you seem to be) but don't take blame for any of it. Blessings to you and yours and good luck with your baby!
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