...and I know I'm going to get bashed, but I cannot believe how much happier I am now that I am back at work. I really enjoyed staying home the last two years with my twins and their same-age cousin, but I am so much less stressed now that I am back at work full time. I find myself less irritable and more excited to see my children. Does anyone else feel like this? Or am I the world's worst mother...LOL.
Youre not a bad mom :)
And i havent worked in 3 years, and wont until all of my children are in school...thats another 5 years at least if i dont have anymore lol! But i really dont want to work...staying home is the best thing ever to me
No you are not a terrible mother, you've just found what works for you!
I was like that too when I was working.... since both of the boys go to school now and I'm in college... it's a bit less stressful... but now that I have to find a job and go to school... it's not going to be that easy!!!
I used to come home from work and it would be one huge cuddle fest with me and the kids... it was great... we would tell eachother what we did all day... etc!!
I feel like I'm going crazy sometimes staying home. I don't get out much, and can't remember the last time I got to just hang out with someone without a screaming kid in the background. I don't want to not be a stay at home mom, I just need some time in the real world sometimes. I would say you're normal!
You know, I actually thought that until I went back to work. I didn't really realize that I was stressed out!
Quoting missamanda86:Youre not a bad mom :)
And i havent worked in 3 years, and wont until all of my children are in school...thats another 5 years at least if i dont have anymore lol! But i really dont want to work...staying home is the best thing ever to me
nope i can totally i understand this..i love that i am able to stay home with my son but i am sending him to a kinder care when he turns 2 (a year and 2 months form now) and i am a little relieved...then i can do some stuff for myself like go to school or something lol. I know i always want to be home when he is and be off any job i might get by the time his school is out so i can be there for him but it will be nice to get back to being my own person for just a few hours a day ;P
Time in the real world definitely helps!!! I didn't get much of that when I was staying home and that was probably a big part of the problem. I'm sure there will come a time when I'll be wishing I was back at home. I think most people going through wanting the other, KWIM?
Quoting steph2884:I feel like I'm going crazy sometimes staying home. I don't get out much, and can't remember the last time I got to just hang out with someone without a screaming kid in the background. I don't want to not be a stay at home mom, I just need some time in the real world sometimes. I would say you're normal!
Ive thought about going back to work, but i am not trusting anyone with my children, and if i have my way, will homeschool my kids...or maybe not im not sure lol! But anywhoo lol! Im glad you found something taht works for you...
Quoting mamaoftwins9197:
You know, I actually thought that until I went back to work. I didn't really realize that I was stressed out!
Quoting missamanda86:
Youre not a bad mom :)
And i havent worked in 3 years, and wont until all of my children are in school...thats another 5 years at least if i dont have anymore lol! But i really dont want to work...staying home is the best thing ever to me
I hate being away from them, but I do feel so much better knowing that they are home with daddy. I don't think it would be that easy to spend time away from them otherwise. There are times when I wish I was with them, but I really enjoy peeing with the door shut...LOL.
Quoting prego7386:nope i can totally i understand this..i love that i am able to stay home with my son but i am sending him to a kinder care when he turns 2 (a year and 2 months form now) and i am a little relieved...then i can do some stuff for myself like go to school or something lol. I know i always want to be home when he is and be off any job i might get by the time his school is out so i can be there for him but it will be nice to get back to being my own person for just a few hours a day ;P
Haha. I don't think there's anything wrong with that at all! Some of us are just 'called', if you will, to be stay at home parents and that's where they're most content. Others of us are more content in the workplace - nothing wrong there! Good for you for staying home with your twins when they needed you most!
I'm feeling the same relief now, but for my brief stint of not working, I had no kids to take care of. I hope that once this baby comes in a few months and I transition back to staying at home, it will feel 'right.'
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