My MIL does NOT like my BIL's wife. They have been together 5 years, married since June this year. She has NEVER liked her because she is not the same religion as my BIL or her. She's very open to other religions and has even said she'd consider taking religious discussions about the church. But that's not enough for dear old mommy.
Now, they've bought a house. They paid around $200k for it. He's military and also works for the county jail. She works as a security officer at a zoo and also as a staffing agent for a temp company. They aren't broke.
Ever since she found out how much their monthly payments are, she has not stopped talking about it. We also bought a house a little over a month ago. We paid a lot less, but also make less. THe house needed and still needs alot of work. We are doing all of the work ourselves. She thinks they are being frivolous with their spending, are going to be broke in a year, are being stupid, should have bought a cheaper house and on and on an ON.
If we'd had more money, I would have totally spent more for a house that needed less work and was ready to move into. I don't think they are stupid.
And I'm sick of being compared to my SIL, since evidently she is the one that MADE my BIL buy the house. She is the sweetest girl ever. She definitely does not control my BIL. Since they closed on their house my MIL has told me every day how I am so much smarter and that we are better about our money and all that jazz. No wonder my BIL no longer comes around anymore. She just makes herself look bad by being so negative and condescending!!!
Buying a house is a great way to build wealth. I cannot believe your mil is so bossy and annoying and mean, etc. There must be some deeper reason why she doesn't like her dil.
The religion thing. She tried to push my SIL to getting baptized, and she said no, I'll do it if and when I'm ready to do it for ME, no one else.
And my MIL also got upset when they didn't ask her to help them move. After she bitched about them spending so much.
Quoting futureshock:
Buying a house is a great way to build wealth. I cannot believe your mil is so bossy and annoying and mean, etc. There must be some deeper reason why she doesn't like her dil.
Call her out on it. Tell her that you don't feel that is appropriate and she should be supportive of their decisions. The bank would not have given them a loan if they did not make enough money to make the payment. Someone needs to say something to your MIL and since she loves you so much maybe she will listen to you. I'm not saying be hateful to her or anything but bring it to her attention that you do not like when she talks about your BIL and SIL that way.
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I told her if they can afford it, it's no ones business but their own. Her response was "Well I don't know how much they make, but I doubt they can actually afford it."
Ya, whatever. I've told her before its not my disagreement to get into.
Quoting PollyMarie:
Call her out on it. Tell her that you don't feel that is appropriate and she should be supportive of their decisions. The bank would not have given them a loan if they did not make enough money to make the payment. Someone needs to say something to your MIL and since she loves you so much maybe she will listen to you. I'm not saying be hateful to her or anything but bring it to her attention that you do not like when she talks about your BIL and SIL that way.
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on Nov. 28, 2009 at 12:38 AM