BM got a double CS payment for November! (UPDATE in red) (piog)
DH resigned his old job a few weeks ago. His last paycheck was Nov 20th, they paid BM her full child support for November out of that check. So as soon as she learned DH resigned, she goes to DH's OTHER employer and files for CS with them and THEY ALSO gave her a November child support payment!
DH and I are SO PISSED!
She is not a reasonable person, so she will never give it back to us without a court order. There is not much we can do about it either because an atty and court costs to file a motion would cost more than the actual payment!
AND she agreed (when she did this before - yes she has a history of being sneaky like this) she would not make any CS changes without notifying us she was goig to do it...we can NEVER EVER trust her.
She knew what she was doing and she doesn't give a rats arse that we have bills to pay AND Christmas!
AND - she'll still get her Dec payment too!
Why do the good dad's get walked on? It's women like her that give deadbeats an excuse - why should they pay if they're going to be financially jilted over and over again (we're into tens of thousands of dollars with the antics his ex has pulled over the last ten years).
If you have a deadbeat ex, you can thank women like my DH's ex for giving them an excuse for being that way. She is evil.
Merry effing Christmas!
**Edited to add:
DH pays about $1200/mo, it goes through a branch office of the Attorney General - BM must have called them to tell them DH no longer works for his other employer and then the idiots down at the OAG branch office (who eff up everything all the time) somehow the must have verified that DH no longer works for his last employer, without verifying that he is going to still get one more paycheck - they they sent an order to his secondary employer. I just can't stand how all this can be done without even a notification to DH. He won't even get a letter as a notification that it happened. It's sick.
**UPDATE**
DH spoke to her earlier today, she
claims she'll give it back to us when she gets the check - I am
*hoping* these last two years with her cancer that she actually has a
heart and gives it back...but I'm not getting my hopes up since her past behavior doesn't say anything other than she'll keep it and claim she never got it.
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Well, she is a sneaky broad, but I am in the oposite situation than you. I still haven't recieved my November CS. And the sad thing is, that his job is supposed to be sending it into a government office and they keep track. Unfortunately, the good guys do get walked on, because some women are b!t@hes
I don't know, on Monday DH is going to call the secondary employer and find out how they were able to do it. I don't expect it to go anywhere, because the last time she got an extra $133 (an overage based in a CS increase, we had already paid her that overage) and the Attorney General's office said "we can't do anything without a court order, you'll have to get it from her" She'll never give it to us and it's not worth $1,800 in atty fees + $300 in court costs + $ from lost time at work to appear in court to get it back - and she knows that - that's how she keeps getting away with it.
The system is SO biased towards mothers it's ridiculous.
Quoting SnoBuny:Is that not illegal? Can you file charges? I guess you do what is best for the child but I would be pissed too!!
I agree with your last statement too!
So, did she just call the new employer and say "This is how much I get a month?" Did they just pay it w/o checking it out first?
I don't understand. I have nothing to do with my ex and his employers. The CS department does all that for me.....THEY contact the new employer, and show the orders and collect it. I can't imagine calling my ex's employer and saying he owes me money, and them sending it to me. I'd probably get laughed at. (he owes me a great deal of back support.)
Quoting texassahm:I don't know, on Monday DH is going to call the secondary employer and find out how they were able to do it. I don't expect it to go anywhere, because the last time she got an extra $133 and the Attorney General's office said "we can't do anything without a court order, you'll have to get it from her" She'll never give it to us and it's not worth $1,800 in atty fees + $300 in court costs + $ from lost time at work to appear in court to get it back - and she knows that - that's how she keeps getting away with it.
The system is SO biased towards mothers it's ridiculous.
Quoting SnoBuny:Is that not illegal? Can you file charges? I guess you do what is best for the child but I would be pissed too!!
I agree with your last statement too!
133.00 a month?
Quoting texassahm:
I don't know, on Monday DH is going to call the secondary employer and find out how they were able to do it. I don't expect it to go anywhere, because the last time she got an extra $133 and the Attorney General's office said "we can't do anything without a court order, you'll have to get it from her" She'll never give it to us and it's not worth $1,800 in atty fees + $300 in court costs + $ from lost time at work to appear in court to get it back - and she knows that - that's how she keeps getting away with it.
The system is SO biased towards mothers it's ridiculous.
Quoting SnoBuny:
Is that not illegal? Can you file charges? I guess you do what is best for the child but I would be pissed too!!
I agree with your last statement too!
Charles&Nina
39 yrs.& 4kids
Ok.. what I don't get is how can she go to your dh's job to get/file for cs to start? I can call about the cs I should be receiving but since it is automatically taken from my son's father's check, I can't demand his work give it to me. I guess that is what I don't get from your post. This is something you guys need to look into. Seriously. If it is payroll deducted, then she cannot just go into your dh's employer and demand a cs check.
Is your dh's cs deducted from his check?
This is the reason that my ex-husband and I agreed to have the state handle our Child Support. He pays to the state or the state takes it out of his pay check and then the state pays me. I can't be sneaky and go waving an order of child support at employers to get double payments because right in our paperwork it says that everything is to go through the DCS (Department of Child Support/Services) office.
We did it so that he'd be protected. I think everyone should do it this way. I've always gotten my CS payments and he's never gotten screwed.
If she is getting her payments through the state contact child support enforcement and make sure they note that she got 2 payments. Their records will show it. They won't give it back to you now but it will count as an overage. If he should miss a payment for whatever reason it will cover that or they will send a check out when they do their audits every couple of years. My DH's to me was really screwed up a couple of times and he go checks back.
Wow,So you haven't gotten your CS, check either huh? Sorry to hear that,but yet I'm glad I'm not the only one,I'm hoping mine is just really late cuz of the Thanksgiving holiday.Sorry OP,didn't mean to hijack your post.
Quoting Suz_and_Ash:
Well, she is a sneaky broad, but I am in the oposite situation than you. I still haven't recieved my November CS. And the sad thing is, that his job is supposed to be sending it into a government office and they keep track. Unfortunately, the good guys do get walked on, because some women are b!t@hes
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- texassahm
on Nov. 28, 2009 at 3:14 PM