About CS, just a question

[Melo2828]

I just wanting to know, how does CS services treat you?

Here's the thing, my DH pay CS it is automaticallytaken out of his paycheck every week, and his employer send it off at the end of the month.

DH was working two jobs at one time, so CS was only taken out form one job, well when he left that job...he did not have enough hours to cover CS form that check, So what he try to do was call CS serviese to see what he need to do to make the diffrence. He was going to send a check to his EX. But CS sercivese told him he can not send the money that way, and it would not count at all. Even with proof, instead they will just take more out in till he caought up...

THis took all morning with them acting very rude to him, as if he was not paying.

Well he gotten a letter yeaterday saying that he was behind,and that they will suspend his linceses etc.  Well he freaked out about it, HE HAS BEEN PAYING...he made sure of that, there poof that CS is been taken out of his paycheck. Well he tried to call them, but he never could get though. So he called his boss and thank God they have a diffrent line that they can call and told CS that yes we did send the money  and they will send it at the end of each month. Instead of every payday.

What DH does not understand, he is not allowed to send money it can only be taken from his paycheck. But he is still responsibleif the money does not get there. How is it his fault, if he not allowed to touch the money only could be sent by someone else, and if he is behind...he not allowed to just send a check to make the difference up?

Do you have to put up with this? Do they treat  the mother better then the father who is paying CS?

[Melo2828]

Bump

[cherieb10]

They pretty much treat the mother the same way. Like we are a problem they HAVE to deal with. Well, if he was to contact the D.A.'S office, they will help him out. We ran to them many times. Maybe get his support reduced if need be. 

[i.heart.rachel]

The mothers get treated like shit, too. Trust me.

[Aphrexia]

Try having to deal with CS in two different states that can't seem to get on the same page (Missouri and Indiana). But it isn't like my ex is paying any of his now 26k in back support. Heck I don't even know if he made it to his court date to decide his "punishment" for non payment. Judge and prosecutor told me I didn't have to be their for his sentencing.

[Chandra034]

I have only called them once, i was also treated like shit.  i hadnt gotten CS for two consecutive months and know my ex was working so I called to see what the problem was.  I was told it wasnt my business and they would take care of it.  That was over a year ago and i still dont have the money for those two months.  Since then i've just decided it isnt worth putting up with the BS.  Either I get CS or I dont, its not something I count on so whatever I'm not calling again.

[mikiemom]

It has nothing to do with being a father versus a mother. non-custodial parents with cs orders are treated the same. - your dh is being given a hard time because of all of the  dead-beat parents out there. They are who he should be angry at.

[Allie_kat1]

I think they just all around treat everyone like crap. After our daughter was born i ended up having to deal with them because my boyfriend and i arent married, we live together, have joint accounts, and have no issues with who pays what to take care of the baby. I spent HOURS on the phone just trying to get the forms sent to me to waive my right to get child support. The woman basically seemed like she hated all men and told me I should go for child support anyway "just in case he decides he doesnt want to take care of his responsibilities" She didnt seem to understand how redundant it would be for them to garnish his wages so they could cut me a check that would then be deposited into our JOINT checking account.

[Melo2828]

I'm gald he not the only one giving a raw deal over there. I just don't understand why they should treat him like that, when all he want to do it make sure his Ex get the money on time.

Heck they should be happy that they do not have to fight him about paying. 

O well,