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Give it up...(adult question)

Posted by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 10:16 AM
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What are your thoughts on .....If a man or woman is not getting the love (in bed)  from their SO do you think it may cause cheating ....If they are alway begging for it and they keep getting pushed away....Do you think they are at high risk of cheating?

by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 10:16 AM
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by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 10:19 AM

I don't know about cheating, but unless there is some sort of medical reason why would you constantly turn your SO away? I mean it just doesn't make sense to me. I love him. I want him happy. No one wants to be pushed away. After a while it seems like they would stop trying all together then the relationship would seriously suffer.  


by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 10:20 AM

Yes I believe making your s/o or d/h beg for sex or always turning them down can lead to cheating But you can also never tell them no and some men will still cheat.I am starting to believe ANY man will cheat if givin a chance.

by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 10:20 AM

 yes, this will better yet cause a break up. where is the sex?

by Diamond Member on Dec. 14, 2009 at 10:22 AM

Do i think it may cause cheating? Depends on the person. Would I consider it a valid excuse? NO.  Theres no reason to ever cheat IMO. End one relationship before getting in the sack wth another.

Lost of people turn down their other half for sex. They may be tired .. they may not have a high or even normal sex drive ... they just don't want it ... idk.

by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 10:23 AM

Cheating? Absolutely not.

A chronic case of asshole-ism leads to cheating.

Lack of sex leads to a breakdown in the marriage, that does not justify or cause cheating. As I said, assholeism causes cheating.

by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 10:24 AM

in my marriage, i don't think so... we have our times when we go days without, but we make up for it... but i do think that some ppl are like that

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by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 10:26 AM

Depends. When I tell my husband no, he knows he's allowed to get it from porn. I know it's not the same thing, but it's better than him going out on the streets having sex with random women.

However, I tell him no because right now I have a prolapse which makes it VERY painful. I've had this problem since the spring, but I haven't had insurance. I do go and see a doctor in a few days so hopefully I can get this issue fixed. I give it to him every once in a while but he knows I'm in pain and will deny him most of the time right now.

I am a US citizen, formula feeding but will breastfeed until child self weans next time, co-sleeping for at least 6 months, extended rear facing and harnessing to the maximum, God loving and fearing, spanking as a last resort believing, anti-CIO until age 1, learning to cook, disposable diapering but will cloth diaper next time, health care is a human right believing, part-time working opposite of husband's full-time shifts to not use daycare, trying to recycle more mommy to one beautiful mixed baby girl!  My husband is a legal Mexican United States citizen, who is the most amazing man, husband, and father.

by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 10:26 AM

i can see where it would lead to cheating.....  if you're not getting your needs fulfilled, you will eventually start looking elsewhere. 

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by Ruby Member on Dec. 14, 2009 at 10:29 AM

I think it depends on the person and where their morality stands on such issues and if the vows were taken seriously. Now as days I have to say yes though in most cases.

by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 10:30 AM

Reality check......If you don't give it up then he will find it elsewhere.  That is just the dirty truth.  I'm not saying that it is ok but it's the truth.  If you constantly turn your man down and he has to beg to get it, he will find someone who does want it from him, plain and simple.  Now I know people go through spirts and low sex drives so if it's just a few times then he shouldn't cheat but that doesn't mean he won't.  If it's constant though, which it might be if he's at the point of begging, then something needs to be done.  If he doesn't cheat then the marriage is going to be in trouble.  But I do believe that holding back will lead to cheating.  It's just a fact of life.....When one is sexual and the other is not willing after awhile you will find someone who is.  I know, I've been there. 

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