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Lap sitting question

Posted by on Jan. 3, 2010 at 12:35 PM
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I have a question for anyone who has flew on a plane with a little one that was "too young" for their own ticket. Did you buy them a ticket as well so they could have their own seat? Or did you keep them on your lap? Do you see anything wrong with lap sitting on planes?

I have a second part to the question, but I'm going to wait for some responses.

Well my question was answered by a few of you, I think the extra ticket should be bought so your child can be strapped into a carseat. Unexpected turbulance can be dangerous, which is why the seatbelt signs are always lit up now.

I was just wondering how much thought everyone put into the safety on a plane, since one of the biggest debates on here is carseat safety....

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by on Jan. 3, 2010 at 12:50 PM
I have never been on an airplane in my entire life. I don't know. Bump

by on Jan. 3, 2010 at 12:51 PM

I had my daughter sit on my lap but my sis was there too so she could at least switch back and forth between us. I think if it had been a longer flight though, I definitely would have gotten her her own seat. 

by on Jan. 3, 2010 at 12:52 PM

i did fly when my dd was under one. I did keep her on my lap, but asked the lady if the flight was not too full can I have a seat next to an empty seat. My dd did fine.

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by on Jan. 3, 2010 at 12:55 PM

yes my son was 7months the first time we flew, yup he was on my lap for about 23hrs, I don't see anything wrong with lap sitting  (i did pay extra attention to my son and my husband was there so we took turns holding him) although I have recently heard of a lady bf her child on an airplane, she fell asleep while doing so and the baby suffocated because of that

by on Jan. 3, 2010 at 12:59 PM

Some airlines don't allow lap sitters have to buy a ticket and have the baby in a car seat...I would call your airline and check with them..... But unless you are on a long flight alone..I think lap sitting should be do able and way cheaper!!.Blessed Be...

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by on Jan. 3, 2010 at 1:02 PM

Ideally children should not sit in parents laps - it is unsafe.

Here is a dear abby column on the topic that is very informative!


DEAR ABBY: In reference to the letter from the Los Angeles plastic surgeon regarding facial disfigurement of children who are allowed to stand in a moving car, may I add my 2 cents' worth?

I am a flight attendant for a major airline, and while the captain does not usually "jam on the brakes," we DO hit unexpected turbulence. Planes can drop 500 feet in a matter of seconds. Guess where a small child who's not in a seatbelt goes? To the ceiling!

I write this out of sheer frustration with uneducated -- or perhaps lazy -- parents. The FAA does not mandate that a child UNDER the age of 2 be in his or her own seat. This is shameful and absurd. We, the flight crew, are required to ensure that all carry-on luggage is safely stowed, yet our most precious cargo, these little human beings, can be on an adult's lap. I applaud parents who pay the extra money and purchase a seat for the child, and extra kudos when they bring along a car seat. If there is an extra seat available, I ALWAYS move other passengers so "lap baby" can have his or her own seat, explaining to parents that it is safer. Guess what? They give me a blank stare and say: "Oh, she won't sit still in her own seat. She'll cry. I'll just hold her."

Let me offer this graphic thought: Parents, if the plane DOES crash and your baby is on your lap, the baby becomes a human air bag for you. Your baby will die instantly. I had a passenger tearfully tell me that this happened to her. She is now crippled, and her only child (who would be 9 now) was killed.

I urge all parents and grandparents to write to Congress and insist that every passenger -- even babies -- be in a seat. The FAA's argument that families will not pay for the extra seat because the cost is prohibitive is unfounded. Most airlines offer a lower rate for children. The FAA says that people will turn to driving, which will cause more road accidents. This is conjecture.

I know this letter is long, but please pass along this important message. Believe me, it will be clipped by thousands of airline crews and shown to passengers. -- A CONCERNED FLIGHT ATTENDANT

DEAR CONCERNED: You have issued a chilling warning to the parents of small children, and I sincerely hope it's one that will be heeded. A plane hitting an air pocket and suddenly losing altitude is not something we hear about every day. However, I recall that it happened to Air Force One a year or so ago, and to a commercial flight just this month -- so it's something that should be taken very seriously. ALL passengers should stay buckled up while they are in their seats.

by on Jan. 3, 2010 at 1:05 PM

I have traveled with my DD when she was under 2 twice & I did not buy her a ticket.  Yes, she sat on my lap the whole time...well mine or my DH's lap. 

by on Jan. 3, 2010 at 1:08 PM

I flew with my daughter when she was 14 months.  I held her in my lap.  It was a 2 hour flight.  She slept the whole time except take off and landing.  She didn't cry during landing, but she did cry during take-off.  There's nothing wrong with it.  A car seat isn't going to make them any safer in an airplane.

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by on Jan. 3, 2010 at 1:14 PM

My DH and I talked about this just last week!!  We have both flown (he more than I, due to AF) but never with children.  We are going to FL next Thanksgiving and are debating over driving vs flying. (we are in TX)

I said that if we fly, Im buying a ticket for the baby.  We will have to have the car seat once we land anyway, might as well fork over the extra cash and keep it with us.  We would have to pay to have it either shipped to his parents or pay to have it carried anyway. And Im paranoid it will get lost or broken. :P

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by on Jan. 3, 2010 at 1:14 PM

We flew with my daughter who was 2 years old and she needed a seat. she did well on the plan mainly slept the whole time.

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