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Sex offenders, reform of the registry? PIOG

Posted by on Jan. 18, 2010 at 4:21 PM
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So I know a few people that have been on the sex offender registry for many years, most are due to stat. rape, and one friend, for indicent exposure to a child. He was drunk, his parents were throwing a party, and he decided to streak through the yard, a few kids were still awake even though it was pretty late at night. One parent freaked and charged him with it. They are all still paying for it.

I think that the registry should be reformed. I think that an 18 y/o who slept with his 16 y/o GF should not have to suffer for the rest of his life. I also think that getting "grand fathered in" is Bull!. What I mean by that is here in Texas, if a person goes to jail for molesting a 3 y/o, when he gets out of jail, he can move back to his house, as long as he owns it, no matter how close to a school, daycare or the victem he is.

Since many of you were against drug testing welfare recipients, I would like to know if you think sex offenders should be able to receive welfare?

Do you think that stat. rape offenders should have to pay for life? Should there be a reform and stronger laws for high crime sex offenders? Should they be able be grandfathered in even if it was a high crime offense?

I am a breastfeeding, college educated, overworked and under paid mama to two little girls. I am an Army Officers wife, and a believer in hard work and discipline. I think that divorce is wrong, welfare is a gateway to laziness and that children should be out of diapers by their 2nd B-day. Before you judge me for my views why don't you educate yourself on WHY I have them?!?!

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southernjess3
by on Jan. 18, 2010 at 4:23 PM

sex offenders who do things other than consented statutary shouldnt be able to get anything..

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perfectkitten
by on Jan. 18, 2010 at 4:24 PM

What exactly are you asking? I see numerous questions in here? 

Trishintraining
by on Jan. 18, 2010 at 4:24 PM

I have some personal experience with this, I believe that people should be allowed to contest the lessor charges after a certain amount of years.  Some states have done so, but it's really hard to get a politician to touch a law that would make things easier for ANY sex offender.

As for the grandfathered in thing, I've never heard of it before, but it sounds like bull.

oboe_chik
by on Jan. 18, 2010 at 4:24 PM

My thought is you break a rule you break a rule. If you don't agree that a 18yo sleeping with a 16yo should have to deal with it for the rest of their lives why don't you put some effort to getting thoes laws changed.

All these people knew that they were breaking laws (no matter how drunk or dumb they were) and they knew the consequences of breaking the laws so I really can't find it in myself to feel sorry for them.

briansmommy7143
by on Jan. 18, 2010 at 4:31 PM

I think saying that someone commiting statutory rape or exposing themselves in public shouldn't have to pay by being on the sex offenders list is silly. Being educated about IF you choose to do those things, THIS is whats going to happen is what there needs to be more of. Because, those things are not ok. If you do it, you pay.

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ERNAProud
by on Jan. 18, 2010 at 4:42 PM

i am not saying they should not be on the registered sex offenders list, but they should be on a separate list maybe, for lesser charges.

To me, rapists (like sexual assault) and child molestors belong on the same list, but a different category.

But, to answer your question...before they reform the list, they need to reform the sentencing and prison systems. It is sickening how child molestors get out of jail in 3 years, but someone that got caught breaking and entering is serving 20. There needs to be harsher punishments for harsher offenders.

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Joeys_Mmy
by on Jan. 18, 2010 at 4:47 PM


Quoting briansmommy7143:

I think saying that someone commiting statutory rape or exposing themselves in public shouldn't have to pay by being on the sex offenders list is silly. Being educated about IF you choose to do those things, THIS is whats going to happen is what there needs to be more of. Because, those things are not ok. If you do it, you pay.


Really? You didn't do anything stupid at 18? My Dh will never be allowed to go to my son's school play, never be allowed to coach youth wrestling (which is what he always dreamed of doing), never move into a house and not have it circulated that a sex offender has moved into the neighborhood.

Why? Because when he was 18, he had sex with his 15 (almost 16) year old girl friend. She consented. Was it dumb? Of course. Is it something he should have to pay for, for the rest of his life? I'd  like to think not.

He doesn't abduct kids, he doesn't molest children. He's a contributing member of society, he has a family, he has a job. He LOVED that girl, and she did it because she was MAD at him. After the fact, she regretted it, but they didn't need her permission to press charges. Her mom actually told him that if he MARRIED her daughter, she wouldn't press charges, which, to me, is sick.

There's something wrong with the system when people like my DH are lumped in with people who rape women, or make child pornography.

blueyedbadass
by on Jan. 18, 2010 at 4:52 PM

I never said they should not be on the sex registry for stat. rape, but I don't think that they should still be punished for it when they are 80. Same thing with my friend, he was in his back yard, he was 18, allowed to drink per parents permission, and streaked, I do not think he should still have to pay for it when he is 50. I think that there should be 5-10 years limits on these types of crimes.

Quoting briansmommy7143:

I think saying that someone commiting statutory rape or exposing themselves in public shouldn't have to pay by being on the sex offenders list is silly. Being educated about IF you choose to do those things, THIS is whats going to happen is what there needs to be more of. Because, those things are not ok. If you do it, you pay.


I am a breastfeeding, college educated, overworked and under paid mama to two little girls. I am an Army Officers wife, and a believer in hard work and discipline. I think that divorce is wrong, welfare is a gateway to laziness and that children should be out of diapers by their 2nd B-day. Before you judge me for my views why don't you educate yourself on WHY I have them?!?!

photoqueen240
by on Jan. 18, 2010 at 4:52 PM

For those of you who are saying that boys who commit "statutory rape" knew what they were doing and what the consequences were......um, I do believe there is a girl who is MORE THAN CAPABLE of knowing what her actions are that is involved as well. So you think its okay to punish and 18 year old boy and affect the rest of his life but not do anything to the 17/16 year old girlfriend who knew perfectly well that she knew what she was doing? BULL!

I have a son and 2 daughters. If my son was sleeping with an underage girl, CONSENTUALLY, you can bet your butt I will FIGHT LIKE HELL against any parents who think they can punish my son for something their daughter consented too. And if he has to pay for something so incredibly stupid for the rest of his life, so will they.

As for my daughters, If I found out they were having sex with a boy AT ALL let alone one who is 18 or older while they are underage, well, its called being a parent and doing your job to end the relationship. But calling the cops and having the boys arrested is just lazy parenting and not accepting responsibility for your kids!

blueyedbadass
by on Jan. 18, 2010 at 4:54 PM

See, in your DH case I think that he should have had to pay for the crime, for a time period, been on the registry for 5 years, then be done with it.

Quoting Joeys_Mmy:


Quoting briansmommy7143:

I think saying that someone commiting statutory rape or exposing themselves in public shouldn't have to pay by being on the sex offenders list is silly. Being educated about IF you choose to do those things, THIS is whats going to happen is what there needs to be more of. Because, those things are not ok. If you do it, you pay.


Really? You didn't do anything stupid at 18? My Dh will never be allowed to go to my son's school play, never be allowed to coach youth wrestling (which is what he always dreamed of doing), never move into a house and not have it circulated that a sex offender has moved into the neighborhood.

Why? Because when he was 18, he had sex with his 15 (almost 16) year old girl friend. She consented. Was it dumb? Of course. Is it something he should have to pay for, for the rest of his life? I'd  like to think not.

He doesn't abduct kids, he doesn't molest children. He's a contributing member of society, he has a family, he has a job. He LOVED that girl, and she did it because she was MAD at him. After the fact, she regretted it, but they didn't need her permission to press charges. Her mom actually told him that if he MARRIED her daughter, she wouldn't press charges, which, to me, is sick.

There's something wrong with the system when people like my DH are lumped in with people who rape women, or make child pornography.


I am a breastfeeding, college educated, overworked and under paid mama to two little girls. I am an Army Officers wife, and a believer in hard work and discipline. I think that divorce is wrong, welfare is a gateway to laziness and that children should be out of diapers by their 2nd B-day. Before you judge me for my views why don't you educate yourself on WHY I have them?!?!

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