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I don't think we'll be going back for awhile (kinda long)

Posted by on Jan. 25, 2010 at 12:04 AM
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So today I went over to my mom's house, where my sister also lives with her 7 year old son.  She is on welfare, her baby's dad has been in prison since she was pregnant and he isn't getting out til 2017.  My sister is a high school drop out, she has never had a real job, she used to be an escort and a stripper.  She was addicted to coke, meth, weed and esctasy.  All of this she had her son around.  She had an abusive boyfriend that beat her and her kid. 

Around May of last year I kept going into labor, I wasn't due until mid July.  So the doctor put me on bedrest and was told I couldn't drive myself to appointments or nothing.  My sister took me once to an appointment and said she would take me to every appointment, she heard what the doctor had said too.  My husband is a truck driver and he would be gone about 2 weeks then home for the weekend usually sometimes home a few more days, so he couldn't take me to my appointments.  My sister and my mom both do not work.  I ended up taking medical transportation to most of my appointments because there was a few times where my sister would take me and drop me off then do a drug run with her little boyfriend while I was in my appointment and then she wouldn't show up so sometimes I had to take the bus, lovely that I was doing that when I was supposed to be on bedrest.  Nobody came around to offer to take my garbage out or clean out my tub, or help clean before the baby came.  I also had an 8 year old daughter I had to care for, so I couldn't be on bedrest because i had no help.

So needless to say the last 3 weeks of my pregnancy I stayed away from them, took a cab or medical transport because I had to go get NST twice a week at the hospital and doctor appointments twice a week too, I had a few ultrasounds thrown in there too.  When I went into labor I called nobody.  My whole entire family is within a 5 mile radius too.  They all were mad at me and I didn't care, there weren't there before I didn't think they had a right to come to the hospital.

Today I went over to their hous and we were talking about that situation and I got called out as the bad guy, then I went into my sister about how much of a loser she is in so many words.  Not that I am all high and mighty but I have been with my husband for 11 years, I went to college, we have a house, we have 3 cars, money in the bank now, we don't do drugs, he's a wonderful man too!!  Both my mom and my step dad told me to leave my sister alone.  They treat her like she has done no wrong and actually enable her, while I was there some guy came to pick her up and smoke a blunt with her.  I told her all she does is hang out with losers.  Yet I'm the "bad kid".  I'm almost 30 years old, we are planning on buying a house outta state this summer so I will be away soon.  But in the meantime, I'm not going back, I tried for my daughters but it's not worth it to me anymore.  Not to mention their house is full of drama!!

Am I right or wrong?

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by on Jan. 25, 2010 at 12:04 AM
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