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I can't believe this lady...

Posted by on Jan. 25, 2010 at 8:15 PM
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 I have just moved to VA from TX and I had to take my DD to the doctor to get new referrals for all the specialists she sees (she has PDD and a slew of other problems). I am getting set up with her ped and I inform him that she is behind on her vaccinations and I now feel comfortable enough to begin getting her caught up. We go over to the immunizations clinic and we are getting all our info updated so they know which shots she needs. While waiting my DD saw some candy and began asking for it by saying "Candy, candy! Ice cream!" (she thinks anything on a stick, in this case lollipops, is ice cream) and she is obviously delayed due to how lacking she is with her language. Any normal person would not criticise someones child especially when they don't know anything about the child have never seen them before and knew nothing about the parent, right? Obviously I am an idiot or something and you should def tell a parent that their 3 year old talks like a baby. The nurse was done giving DD her shots and DD was obviously upset saying "Let's go, let's go!! Owies!!", well the nurse turns to me and says "She talks like a baby!" I said "She is autistic, thanks" and all she said was "Oh"...no sorry or anything.

I was so upset because not too long ago someone I loved and trusted called her a retard and one of my biggest fears is her being judged due to her developmental problems....I got to my car and just started crying. How could you say something like that to a parent and then not apologize for your ignorance....am I wrong for being upset or letting it get to me??

by on Jan. 25, 2010 at 8:15 PM
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Chick
by on Jan. 25, 2010 at 8:45 PM

I'm sorry. That was VERY rude. It doesn't matter if you think there is a reason or not, you should never say anything about another person child's developement if it could possibly be taken as negative.

homemommie
by on Jan. 25, 2010 at 8:48 PM

People are rude plain and simple. I would have been upset too. She should have definitely not said that I mean c'mon she is nurse and it is part of her job to work with people and not critisize or judge.

1busymomma03
by on Jan. 25, 2010 at 8:50 PM

I'm sorry you had to deal with that. I just don't understand how some people can be so rude!!! (((hugs)))

CariO.
by on Jan. 25, 2010 at 8:52 PM

That nurse was an idiot! 

 

MrsGonzo517
by on Jan. 25, 2010 at 8:54 PM

I'm sorry! :(

Quoting CariO.:

That nurse was an idiot! 








ForeverMeme
by on Jan. 25, 2010 at 8:56 PM

I would report the nurse. That was just uncalled for and wrong in so many ways. We have an autistic child in our family and ours is non-verbal. We are his voice, and will always be.  I am sorry you had such a bad experience but I really would report the nurse.  

beadingmom17
by Rachel on Jan. 25, 2010 at 8:59 PM

I was thinking the same thing.  Even if you called the office and said "Look, one of your nurses did ____.  I think it was rude, unprofessional, and just downright uncalled for."  I'm sorry that she said something like that to you...what a jerk!

Quoting ForeverMeme:

I would report the nurse. That was just uncalled for and wrong in so many ways. We have an autistic child in our family and ours is non-verbal. We are his voice, and will always be.  I am sorry you had such a bad experience but I really would report the nurse.  


NattysMommy
by on Jan. 25, 2010 at 8:59 PM

Thanks ladies! I just didn't understand why she didn't immediately apologize for what she had said!!! Her indifference after learning that my DD had a problem just made it even worse. I am going to make sure someone high up at the clinic finds out about it! 

usafwife314
by on Jan. 25, 2010 at 9:02 PM

I am so sorry!  I would not even begin to know how to react if someone called my daughter something.  She has speech delay.  She will be 3 next month and can barely make 3 word sentences.

I think you handled that very well!!



ForeverMeme
by on Jan. 25, 2010 at 9:06 PM


Quoting NattysMommy:

Thanks ladies! I just didn't understand why she didn't immediately apologize for what she had said!!! Her indifference after learning that my DD had a problem just made it even worse. I am going to make sure someone high up at the clinic finds out about it! 

Hon don't even try to understand, it will only make you crazy. Be your daughter's advocate and do her talking for her. Find out who is in charge of that nurse, and ask to talk to that person in private. Let them know how rude and how bad it made you feel by her attitude. Good luck mama!

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