Why when someone wants to vent or talk about day to day struggles do people have to come on and say things, "Well, at least your kids don't have cancer. It could be worse." or "At least your husband isn't banging your sister, it could be worse."
Ummm...there is always worse. Does that mean we can't vent or complain about the day to day crap that comes unexpectedly into our lives?
LOL, I know what you mean.
It's freezing outside (about 50 degrees). Knowing it's colder in Minnesota does not make me feel warmer or any less cold. I continue to feel cold AND know that I don't want to be in Minnesota.
my mom did that to me the other day and it pissed me off.. i'm really depressed right now because we keep having set backs on purchasing our home.. so i was venting to her and she said "it could be worse Maria, look at what happened in Haiti, at least you have a home!" FUCKING SHIT I KNOW I DO... ohh wee.. ok let me stop now.. lol
yea i get ya!
I made a post like this yesterday...I think it was yesterday. And no, it never makes me feel better because for me I always end up worrying about my problems, which just don't magically go away because it could be wrose. I also end up feeling bad for whatever it is that could be worse! I don't know why people say that I hate it! Yeah, it could be worse. For that child that has cancer it could be worse, unfortantly. For that husband who's banging his SIL it could be worse! He could be banging your brother or mother! It could always be worse for everyone. Just because one person's problems seem trivial to another person doesn't mean they really are.
I agree! My sister does it in real life too. My son was hospitalized with an asthma attack and had been a pretty sick boy. She works on the cancer floor. It is a children's hospital. I said something, I am so glad he is better but he was so sick! I was tired and emotional. She said and I quote "It's JUST asthma, he doesn't have cancer and will go home. He will be fine". Okay I know that! And she has kids but has never sat at the bedside of her own child (not that I wish she would) and watched her child dying! I have almost lost my child to asthma. Asthma can kill. It made me so mad but I just said, I know it isn't cancer but he was very sick. She said I have seen worse! I was so angry I stopped talking while she was at the visit with him and focused on him. When you are going through something be it every day stress or a sick child...it is your experience and if you are overwhelmed, well you are overwhelmed. No one has a right to deem that experience as not worthy of being upset about.
Quoting Sagely:
LOL, I know what you mean.
It's freezing outside (about 50 degrees). Knowing it's colder in Minnesota does not make me feel warmer or any less cold. I continue to feel cold AND know that I don't want to be in Minnesota.
I'm in Southern California. IT's about that out during the day and it is cold to us. My family always says "OH, here in Reno or Idaho depending on who I'm talking to it's blah blah blah" Yeah? Guess what? I'M STILL COLD!
Hearing stories about other people having had that done to them makes me even more angry about it...lol.
It is one thing if someone relates to your pain and shares a story to let you know that they understand because they have experienced something similar. But, to basically belittle another person's struggles is just rude.
Venting is unappreciated - unfortunitely for those needing to get the words out. Some of those inappropriate replies could be a way to help cool the moment of hot time, just read along and laugh, take a breath of fresh air.
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on Jan. 27, 2010 at 12:16 PM