So don't take this personal....think about the question before you respond...Edit in blue
The post about how can the military be low income got me thinking..
In ALOT of the replies I saw things mentioned like well we have more than 2 kids and 2 cars etc. So my question is this.....wouldn't it make sense to stop having kids? I mean if your hubby is making the same amount he was making when you guys met a year ago why keep having children that you can't afford. Why keep buying cars...etc?
I'm only asking this question because its usually alot of military wives/moms who respond to the posts about welfare and food stamps etc. Telling women on here they shouldn't have kids they can't afford. And yet when someone asks you why you can't make your money stretch your answer is...well i have kids....do you see what i'm saying?
So i'm wondering if its a double standard. Do you get to keep having kids you can't afford because you're married? Should women who are not married stop having kids they can't afford but you should still be allowed to continue. It just seems like a double standard.
I know plenty of married couples who use birth control. Wouldn't limiting the amount of children you have make your income stretch a little further.
Just wondering your thoughts. Like i said don't take it personal. If this shoe doesn't fit your situation, why put it on?
Edit: LMAO...i know its military moms responding to posts and saying these things because of siggies lol. You know the little things you like to put at the bottom of your replies that kinda tells a little bit about who you are? I knew someone would ask that question. I'm kind of confused as to why this answer wasn't the obvious one.
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Ms. Johnson (*Unbreakable)
I honestly don't care if someone has more than two kids and is on PA as long as they're not being lazy and using it as an excuse not to work and making it their permanent way of life. Lower ranking military is not paid well. They may have had multiple children BEFORE the husband enlisted. There have been people with very good paying jobs who lost their jobs and couldn't find work, then joined the military instead to support their family. They come in as lower ranking making very little money. I can not complain. DH has been in for almost 13 years and we have 3 kids. We do live without a lot of going out and all that, but we have decent things and my kids have all their needs and most of their wants met. But yes I do in a way agree, if you are limited on income, no matter what the job, put off having children til you are more financially stable if possible. I know there are accidents, it happens all the time. Can't blame those women lol.
yea i dont get it. people shouldnt have kids they cant afford, regardless of whether their husband is in the military or not.
You may have a point. I'm just wondering why its not more popular to have military wives use birth control. I mean every time i turn around it seems like the wife of a soldier is pregnant. And that's fine. I'm not complaining about that. I start having a problem when they start complaining they don't have enought money.
disclaimer****i definitely believe you should get more for serving your country and thing against that belief is not what this post is about
Quoting college.mom0f2:
I am not generalizing, but I think its more of "well my husband serves this country I can have as many kids as I want" mindset and not the "I am married I can have as many kids as I want" mindset. I dont care either way...have your kids. Not my business.
Said with love,
Ms. Johnson (*Unbreakable)
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