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A question to those civilian wives who...
are always asking us military wives stupid questions. The big one we always hear is about our pay, and why we bitch about it. If you think it is soooooo great, then enlist. I don't think we are poor. My husband and I do quite well with what we make, but in no way are we rolling in money. We of course have to budget ourselves. But why even continue to ask why we "bitch" about it. You can never understand our lifestyle because you don't live it.
And to the woman who suggested we stop having kids if we don't make enough. I'm hoping you were joking. You compared us to someone on PA? Once again I'll make this clear. We aren't poor, but for the amount of work our men and women put into their job, they certainly deserve more.
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- by on Feb. 9, 2010 at 3:10 PM
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Haha, I did a post earlier about this. See I'm not the only military wife that is getting upset at these.
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- by on Feb. 9, 2010 at 3:12 PM
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I wouldn't compare you to someone on PA...but if you cant afford the kids you have then of course you should stop having kids...it doesn't matter what your husband does for a living.
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- by on Feb. 9, 2010 at 3:12 PM
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I was always taught it was rude & classless to talk about wages. I could never imagine asking someone about how much they or their spouse make!?!
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- by on Feb. 9, 2010 at 3:12 PM
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lol You certainly aren't momma! Did you read the one about suggesting we stop having kids if we are so poor? I didn't have time to respond bc CM shut down for maintenance.
Quoting pageantgirl3:
Haha, I did a post earlier about this. See I'm not the only military wife that is getting upset at these.
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- by on Feb. 9, 2010 at 3:12 PM
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It is a choice you made just as my husband made a choice to be in his profession.
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- by on Feb. 9, 2010 at 3:13 PM
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I agree with you...Soldiers do not get paid enough for what they do.
Were not military but i'm not even sure why it's up for discussion or why it is anyone's business about how much military people get paid. No one would ask me how much my DH makes, that would be considered rude. Why does anyone think they have a right to discuss how much military gets paid?
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- by on Feb. 9, 2010 at 3:14 PM
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To be fair, though, a person could always say "If you don't like the pay, un-enlist"- you know? It goes both ways.
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- by on Feb. 9, 2010 at 3:14 PM
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That's just it. People assume because we "bitch" about our pay that we are saying we are broke. That's not the case. We can afford our children.
Quoting LiesLiesLies:
I wouldn't compare you to someone on PA...but if you cant afford the kids you have then of course you should stop having kids...it doesn't matter what your husband does for a living.
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- by on Feb. 9, 2010 at 3:16 PM
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Lol this is funny to me. Are you military? Because if you are you would know you are bound my a contract. You can't just quit your job.
Quoting smurfiest:
To be fair, though, a person could always say "If you don't like the pay, un-enlist"- you know? It goes both ways.
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- by on Feb. 9, 2010 at 3:16 PM
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I am sorry I am a military wife.. but I agree 100% that if you can not afford kids, then WAIT to have them PERIOD. We waited till my husband was an E5 to have my DD and he has to be an E6 before I will have another.... I can NOT imagine being able to provide for her being a lower rank.. we were so shit dirt poor when he was an E3.. E4 got a LIL better though...
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