I just got engaged to my SO and it is the 3rd marriage for both of us.. we both have kids.. he has 3 I have 1 the ages are his 21, 19, 17 and mine 14.
Now here is are question.. we want to Elope and have an intimate ceremony on the beach of puerto rico.. really have it be just the 2 of us..
the question is how do we handle not bringing the kids and is that even right? I know that my 14 year old and possible his 17 year old would be upset... but if we have the ceremony here my mom would get involved and take over and it would turn into a full blown wedding both my past weddings have resulted in being "her" wedding.. cause she is good at guilting me into feeling bad for not inviting this person or that person.. so..
any thoughts.. do I just cave and have a ceremony at home.. or do we do it like we both want?