I am 8 months pregnant. I still love my DH, but he just isn't the man I need him to be and I am beginning to realize that I can never make him the man I need him to be. He works really hard and he is a great guy with a loving heart, but in so many ways I married a little boy, not a man. He can't clean up after himself no matter how many times I ask, and I used to try to talk to to him about it and he would promise he would try and things would change etc. Now he hardly says anything, and if he does he says "okay," but his tone says "not this again, I want this conversation over quickly." I can't get him to change the litter box more than once every one or two weeks. My pregnancy is high risk. I CAN'T do it. The last thing I need is one more thing to put our daughter at risk. I told him today that I am going to get rid of the cats because he can't take care of them and he is a grown man I should not have to ask him every day about the litter. I know it sounds stupid, but I love these two cats a lot. One of them really helped me when I was recovering from an abusive relationship. I have had him for 4 years. The other one is always at my side no matter where I am. Every time I had morning sickness so bad that I was lying on the bathroom floor if I wasn't puking she was right there. I am very attached to them. It is painful for me to let them go. They are more than just animals to me. When I told him I said it seems like you don't care. He said, "I really don't right now. If you got rid of them it is just one less thing for me to deal with." Then when he walked out the door for work for the first time in our marriage he did not hug me or say I love you. He just said, "see ya later." It just kind of feels like nothing is getting better and everything is getting worse. Like I said. I still love him, but his behavior is becoming more and more apathetic. He will hug me and say I love you, but when it comes to actual things I NEED him to do he just isn't there for me. We have been fighting so much that I already have a suitcase packed in the car. It is more the logistics that have me worried now. I can't stay with my mother, even temporarily for reasons I would rather not discuss, my dad has passed away, my sister is a kid and lives with my mom, most of my friends still live with their parents (they are in their late 20's though) so I don't really have anywhere to go. Also, his car is broken right now and he needs a way to get to work. I don't want to take his transportation away (like I said I don't hate him, I just don't think our marriage works anymore). So the logistics really worry me. Plus I don't have any money saved up. IDK any advice ladies? I am so sad it has come to this. I really do still love him.