Do any boyfriends out there NOT abuse the kids?
I hear over and over on the news about a baby or young child being transported tothe ER because he/she was abused at home and everytime (well 97%) it was done by the mothers boyfriend. There was a post on here last night that brought up a similar situation about a boyfriend possibly abusing her children.
Why is it the boyfriends that do this? Why are these mothers trusting their babies and children with these monsters? It just makes me sick to hear about a 2 yr old that has such horrible head trauma caused by mommy's boyfriend that her chances of survival are slim. Do you think it's because these men have no attachment with these kids so it's easier for them to abuse them?
Quoting amanda357:
I hear over and over on the news about a baby or young child being transported tothe ER because he/she was abused at home and everytime (well 97%) it was done by the mothers boyfriend. There was a post on here last night that brought up a similar situation about a boyfriend possibly abusing her children.
Why is it the boyfriends that do this? Why are these mothers trusting their babies and children with these monsters? It just makes me sick to hear about a 2 yr old that has such horrible head trauma caused by mommy's boyfriend that her chances of survival are slim. Do you think it's because these men have no attachment with these kids so it's easier for them to abuse them?
why are they trusting them to these monsters? maybe because i doubt they get up that morning to go to work and think WOW i want to leave my toddler with a MONSTER today. they love and trust thier boyfriend, or want to anad are blind to warning signs? who knows.
i think it is like any adult who abuses a small child in thier care. the adult has no coping skills, doesnt take steps to get help before thier rage gets out of control, and then beats on the childl
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I think a lot of people ignore important warning signs. Whether they don't want to believe someone they love is capable of horrible things, or they are vulnerable or lonely and come to depend on that person. My mom stayed with a pedophile for a while. The warning signs were there, me and my siblings all knew he was a creep, she even found child porn on his pc. But for whatever reason, she chose to believe his lame excuses and lies. Love (or loneliness induced dependency) is blind, I guess.
Quoting sati769leigh:
why are they trusting them to these monsters? maybe because i doubt they get up that morning to go to work and think WOW i want to leave my toddler with a MONSTER today. they love and trust thier boyfriend, or want to anad are blind to warning signs? who knows.
i think it is like any adult who abuses a small child in thier care. the adult has no coping skills, doesnt take steps to get help before thier rage gets out of control, and then beats on the childl
yeah... i don't know. i have never left my daughter with anyone except REALLY close friends and family (maybe 5 people) i would never leave her with a boyfriend of mine... ever.
I think it's just that these men target women who have children.... I am talking to a man right now who is not my sons biological father, he has all the potential to be that new guy for me but I'm nervous about this... I dont think he'd do anything to hurt my little man, but I want to be 1000% positive before i'd ever leave him alone with him..
I don't know it makes it harder to find love after divorce/breakup. It's something you have to worry about.
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- amanda357
on Mar. 7, 2010 at 1:04 PM