She wants to fly down for the Christening. The only problem is that we aren't having one. Her religion (Catholicism) is very important to her and I told her that we have not decided whether to have one or not, but the truth is that I am Wiccan and my husband is an Atheist. I really don't know how to tell my 76 year old Catholic grandmother this. Can anyone give me any advice? I would like to do it without telling her my religion if at all possible, because she won't understand it at all.
It isn't really that I am ashamed so much as I know how much it would hurt her to know.
Quoting MommiE8983:
That's tough. I'm pretty straight foward so I would have a hard time not telling my grandma my beliefs. One of my grandmas is 86 and the other is 89 and they both know I'm an atheist. Neither one is very excited about that but they know I'm not ashamed of who I am and both are proud of me because I stand up for what I believe in.
Tell her she is more than welcome to come down and see the baby, but you have decided to let the baby to decided her own faith.
That could work. It may come off less harsh than just telling her out and out that we are not raising our child that way. And I do intend on letting her choose her own path.
Quoting Martina70:Tell her see is more than welcome to come down and see the baby, but you have decided to let the baby to decided her own faith.
No I can't give you any advice, But GOOD LUCK, This is going to be the hardest thing you have ever done in your life. When mine found out I was pregnant, she threw a fit because we didn't tell her we got married. OMG when my dad informed her that I was not married............... Ya GOOD LUCK!!!!!!
my MIL really wants our DD baptized but we told her that when Bella is old enough she will choose whatever religion she wants to be involved with and that we aren't ok with "forcing" her into being catholic. Both me and my DH were baptized catholic and we both dont go to church. Also my DH was given the choice to pick what religion he wanted to be a part of
Can you not do a Wiccan blessing ceremony with just some sort of reference to God and have your child wear a traditional christening dress and maybe use like a branch or leaf to put the holy water? I am not so up to date with the Wiccan religion but is there no way for a compromise? Even some baptisms can take place in a lake or river rather than a church.
No, not really. That would be offensive to my grandmother and not really in line with my own beliefs. Especially since dual theism is a tenet of the Wiccan belief system. It would not be right for me to mention God without mentioning the Goddess, and a Catholic baptism has to be done by a priest in a Catholic church (like in the actual BUILDING (not shouting emphasizing)), so they don't really mesh.
Quoting MixedCooke:Can you not do a Wiccan blessing ceremony with just some sort of reference to God and have your child wear a traditional christening dress and maybe use like a branch or leaf to put the holy water? I am not so up to date with the Wiccan religion but is there no way for a compromise? Even some baptisms can take place in a lake or river rather than a church.
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