I am her MOM...just a vent

[moolamama]

not "the other woman". I don't care if my ex now screws her. I am her mom and she should not pretend that she is. MY daughter knows who her mommy is. No matter how much she trys to be my daughters bestfriend, take her to get her hair done, nails done, ect... What I want for my daughter should be respected! If I say I don't want her getting her nails painted professionally or her hair trimmed with her at 5 years old THAT IS MY CHOICE! She is NOT her mom... she should back off.

vent done...

[ANandLPsMom]

 yep. my mom took my DD (4 at the time) to the ear piercer and got her SECOND holes. AT FOUR. I snapped some shit.

[twinmamaof3]

Wow, that is crazy!  She def needs to respect that!  She is not by any means you're dd's Mom!  I am so sorry!  I have no idea how I would handle that, but I would be pissed!  

[IleanRight]

 Yes, but the dad also has a say so. Some moms think they have all the say and don't involve the dads

[LilahandElliot]

I am a step-mom and I have taken my SD (who is 4) to do both of those. When it's my DH's parenting time it's his time and it's his decision what we do and don't do. JMO. 

 

[csnook]

my kids are geting ready to have a step mom. my ex and i have sat down and said waht she ia allowed to do and not do

[siberiantiger]

I would be pissed at your ex. It is his job to respect your wishes and his fault when it is not done. Don't think that it was done without HIS permission. He chose to allow her to do it, so back off her and go after him!!!!

[jessigarrett]

i agree with you there momma!

[misssy2000]

I agree with this! maybe OP if you dont agree with it then talk to ex hubby but imagin how your dd would feel if mom and step sister are going to do those things and she is left out. I guess I am a I dont sweat the small stuff kinda girl.

Quoting LilahandElliot:

I am a step-mom and I have taken my SD (who is 4) to do both of those. When it's my DH's parenting time it's his time and it's his decision what we do and don't do. JMO. 

[sophiaval]

 While what happens on his time happens on his time is true, there are certain parenting decisions that need to be obeyed.  When either parent makes up their mind to want to do something new, they really need to discuss with the other parent before doing it.  Just as they would if the parents were still together.  If the dad is having no respect for your parenting wishes at 5 years old, it's going to make raising this little girl very hard.  You need to talk to your ex and explain to him that there are certain things you want your daughter to experience, and certain things you want her to experience with YOU not whatever woman is in HIS life.  Ask him how he would feel if your daughter took a new man in your life to a daddy & me dance or some other experience that she be for him & him alone!  He needs to understand certain bonds that need to happen between a mother & daughter.

[TrystansMom314]

 So I know you were just venting, but are those things allowed with you? Yes you are her mom, but her father okayed it apparently.  Both parents shouls have a say in the child's activities.  I think if they are not allowed with you (as in you don't take her to get those things done) then she shouldn't either, however if it is something that you normally allow but just don't want her doing, well then I think you should talk to your ex ab it and consider allowing it or at least the nails. Personally no one would take my kid to get their hair trimmed but me!