im not bashing anyone just very curious about the hubby having control or rule over the wife? like does he make ALL the decisions? tell you where you can and cant go? tell you what you can and cant buy? tell you when you have to go to bed and what time you have to get up? again not bashing just curious how this submissive stuff works.
There are many types of submission and many levels in each lifestyle.
Google is your best bet, I'd say unless you find moms who live the lifestyle here. We've dabbled in the BDSM lifestyle a bit but we definitely don't live by it.
Good luck!
its not like that.
He is the head of the house. His decision is the final one but he does listen to me. I go to bed when i want. I get up when i want. If its uner 100 i can buy whatever the heck i want as can he. Over 100 and it needs to be discussed. I go wherever i want..whenever i want.
well im also curious how many moms out there live these lifestyles and to what extent they go to as well,me personally though i dont think i could live this lifestyle lol but im not going to frown upon those who do :)
Quoting Purtyred:
There are many types of submission and many levels in each lifestyle.
Google is your best bet, I'd say unless you find moms who live the lifestyle here. We've dabbled in the BDSM lifestyle a bit but we definitely don't live by it.
Good luck!
Quoting amandakay88:im not bashing anyone just very curious about the hubby having control or rule over the wife? like does he make ALL the decisions? most of the decisions are his but he will ask my opinion. tell you where you can and cant go? i usually dont go anywhere but i always ask if i can go somewhere that i need to go. tell you what you can and cant buy? again i always ask if i can buy something. he controls the money tell you when you have to go to bed and what time you have to get up? usually we agree to go to bed together. when i have wanted to stay up he has told me to go to bed with him (not just for sex). He tells me to get up if I have laid in bed for too long. again not bashing just curious how this submissive stuff works.
Quoting valnieves01:
I am submissive to my husband feelings, meaning I always consider how he feels before I make the decision, but in the end I do make the final decision
Same here, I ask his opinion before I make a big decision. He gets the final say in any disagreement. Well, he usually does, he want's me to have another baby (try for a girl) and I want to be done. I'm still considering getting my tubes tied weather he likes it or not. lol We will see how this issue turns out.
It depends on the individual couple. Most people I have met in the lifestyle and when i lived it had some conversations and negotiation on what both of them wanted. Very few people give over total control in the sense they have no say in anything and just do what they are told. Generally there are different aspects of their relationship that the Dominant has total say over but that said they also are more often then not willing to hear input from the submissive. Dominants do not just look after their own best interest and they do truly want the submissive to feel happy. It's a give and take relationship that fufills a need they BOTH want. It would not work any other way and would turn into abuse. Many people even go so far as to write contracts to clearly lay out what they are okay with and not okay with. Discipline for example is usually one that they discuss. Like if to use physical discipline or not. What the submissive can expect from the Dominate and what the Dominate expects from the submissive partner.
Very clear it is STILL a partnership in terms of each person is giving equally to the function of the family just in different ways.
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on Mar. 16, 2010 at 2:45 PM