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Can a Third Party Be Responsible? ("homewrecker")

Posted by

Radarma

on Mar. 16, 2010 at 4:06 PM

One_Dar

64 Replies

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Question: Can a third party be responsible for someone straying in a marriage/union/commitment?

Total Votes: 122

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Easy question here gals....

Can a third party be responsible for infidelity within a strong marriage/union/commitment?

Vote Yes or No please.

(third party meaning, when someone strays, it is ever the "fault" of the person they stray TO?" )

THANKS!

Posted by

Radarma

on Mar. 16, 2010 at 4:06 PM

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sati769leigh

on Mar. 16, 2010 at 4:07 PM

can they be FULLY responsible ? no. if they know they are getting tangled in a marriage then they are PARTIALLY responsible, for thier own choices in the situation.

erinsmom1964

Platinum Member on Mar. 16, 2010 at 4:07 PM

The "third party" didn't take vows with you

JADIEBUG

Ruby Member on Mar. 16, 2010 at 4:08 PM

Quoting erinsmom1964:

The "third party" didn't take vows with you

ShadowLark

Platinum Member on Mar. 16, 2010 at 4:08 PM

Quoting erinsmom1964:

The "third party" didn't take vows with you

Exactly. And if your SO is stupid enough to cheat, that's nobody's fault but his/hers.

Radarma

One_Dar on Mar. 16, 2010 at 4:09 PM

This came up today on an episode of The View.

Specifically, they were talking about John Edwards yadda yadda.

I happen to think that IN A STRONG marriage, there is nothing that can or would draw one of the partners away. And I sometimes disagree with myself.

I found this a pretty interesting topic for perspective/discussion.

FromScratchMom

on Mar. 16, 2010 at 4:10 PM

Quoting sati769leigh:

can they be FULLY responsible ? no. if they know they are getting tangled in a marriage then they are PARTIALLY responsible, for thier own choices in the situation.

i say this. if the third party knows the couple is married or etc and still actively pursues the person than he/she is partially at fault but not as much as the cheating spouse.

oboe_chik

Platinum Member on Mar. 16, 2010 at 4:10 PM

Nope. Can you be mad at the 3rd party (especially if its someone you know)...sure. But no one is EVER responsible for what someone else does or doesn't do.

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tiffanymartinez

on Mar. 16, 2010 at 4:11 PM

Peer Pressure is a huge factor in the way MEN act and women fall victim to it also.

Wendy_June

on Mar. 16, 2010 at 4:11 PM

Quoting erinsmom1964:

The "third party" didn't take vows with you

My thoughts exactly, I'd still intensely dislike them but they didn't promise to be faithful to me.

Momof2MixdBoyz

on Mar. 16, 2010 at 4:12 PM

If she/he knew that the person was married.... Yes... if they didn't until after the affair and damage to the marriage... no....

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