I get the emails from time to time describing what I could expect of my DD at whatever age she is at...well I just got an email describing what milestones she "should" have accomplished already at her age...and there are a few she hasn't...one in particular I've been wondering about is expressing a want. She doesn't really express wanting anything...I know when she's tired and eating and drinking I just guess.
So do you follow BabyCenter like it's the gospel of child raising, or more like a guideline? Should I be concerned if she's not meeting the milestones most other babies her age are meeting?
I consider babycenter to be a cute little guide, sorta like the What To Expect series. Follow YOUR mommy instincts before you follow a website or book. You know your daughter better than anyone.
Sometimes advice can only make us feel worse, like with me and my daughter. I didn't bond with her right away, and everyone told me I should give her up because I was a shitty parent. She's 14 months old and has taken a few steps, but isn't running around like "the other kids" are. Every time I see a kid younger than her walking, I want to scream.
I don't really take anything from the internet that seriously. If I have doubts or concerns I ask my doctor.
Sharon
i think its just a guide line dd has ever done the things they say
they are kind of the base line of what the majority believe a child should be doing at the given time. they do have articles that say that all kids are different and may hit these before or after. they are mainly listed so that a person can take note if their child is like way behind on something to see if one's child may need special help. i don't mean a fewmonths but like several months or possible a year. for example, if your 2 year old is not walking, something is wrong.
Baby center is good resource but IMO should never take the place of your child's pediatrician or family physician.
Quoting caitxrawks:I consider babycenter to be a cute little guide, sorta like the What To Expect series. Follow YOUR mommy instincts before you follow a website or book. You know your daughter better than anyone.
Sometimes advice can only make us feel worse, like with me and my daughter. I didn't bond with her right away, and everyone told me I should give her up because I was a shitty parent. She's 14 months old and has taken a few steps, but isn't running around like "the other kids" are. Every time I see a kid younger than her walking, I want to scream.
I totally agree with advice making things worst sometimes. I literally had to stop reading the baby books I had cause they were stressing me out and I was becoming paranoid about her development at 6 months, lol.
BTW, I hate the assumption that if your not 100% wonderfully overjoyed and glowing after having a baby, your told by some to give up your kid...I've seen how mean and spiteful some woman get on CM alone, so I am sorry you had to go through that.
DD is 11 and a half, and she has no interest in walking. She's not even standing on her own yet. She pulls herself up to a standing position and can walk pretty well while holding on to something, but try and get her to take a step while even holding her, and she just drops to a crawl. It's like she's thinking, "I already know how to get around, why do I need to do it that way?" lol.
Quoting jothra:I don't take anything as a hard and fast, by this point they should be doing x and y. But if you are concerned, bring it up to the ped. What if you hold up a toy and she reaches for it, it's that a want?
She reaches for toys when I hold them out. I never thought about it as a want...I guess when I think of a want, I think "hungry" or "thirsty".
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on Mar. 16, 2010 at 7:33 PM