Okay, so brother in laws wife is pregnant. My hubby and I went to his mom's house and saw a picture of a postive pregnancy test on the fridge. We asked his mom "Who is PG?" And she just casually said "Oh Stephanie is". Stephanie is the brother in laws wife.
Nothing has ever been said about her being pregnant by anyone except for that comment. They have not called us, he has not even called my husband, his own brother to tell him that they are expecting, there first child by the way. Husband other brother hasn't even told us.
Would you be upset or hurt if your in-laws didn't call you and tell you they are pregnant when everyone else in the family already knows? I think I am more concerned about my hubby's feelings on this, him knowing his own brother doesn't care enough to call.
They have never been real close, 8 yrs difference in age. When our oldest son was born hubbys brother was only 12 and we have the only 2 grandkids, they are 17 & 15. So I wonder if there is maybe some kind of resentment on the hubby's brothers part.
I hope this all makes sence.
Resentment? No...I don't see that at all.
I didn't call to tell people that I am not that close with.
Neither upset nor hurt... You don't know if they had something big planned to tell everyone else, or worse you don't know if there is something wrong and thats the real reason they aren't making a big deal about it. The possibilities are endless but point is they dont owe anyone an explanation since its their life and their baby.
Some people dont announce until a certain time, usually the second trimester. Maybe she is high risk and afraid of miscarriage? idk, but I wouldn't get upset. (if you dont get an invite to the shower then I'd be POed.
I would be upset but only because I am very close with both my family and his. Our families are always over here and I am close friends with his brothers and their wives. Plus I am baby crazy lol so yeah I'd be upset. But if you guys never really talk at all or there was a falling out or anything like that then I wouldn't be so upset.
We are going to TTC in July but not telling anyone until either I show or the end of the 1st trimester. Don't want to get anyone's hopes up...they could be feeling the same way.
Does hubby and his brother talk much or are they sort of distant?Because I am 8 years older than my brother,we are quite distant(even though he lives w/my parents and I visit them every week) and if he and his s/o were having a baby and I found out through my parents,it really wouldn't shock me if he(bro)didn't personally call me.
Nope would not care at all if his sister did not tell us. My sisters would never not tell me though, I am really close to them. Heck we did not run around telling everyone in the world with any of our kids.
I had a miscarriage that broke my heart so we waited until we got out of the first trimester to tell anyone. Including my sisters. Not rude at all, just wanting to make sure.
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on Mar. 17, 2010 at 4:00 PM