My husband is a groomsman in some very goods friends of ours wedding. Well thier tux rental is $175 (wich is kind of steep but okay its doable). The bride asked me if I wanted to bring my daughter and I said yes I really did (she is 2). She seemed to be okay with that and I thought my dd was welcomed. Well when I got the invite back I RSVP'd for 3 plates (DH, Myself and DD). The groom then called and said that they were confused on what we wanted to eat (I had checked 2 chicken and 1 beef, the also had seafood and vegitarian as an option). He then informed me that they are not feeding the kids. He went on to say that the dinners were too expensive and the 17 kids that were coming were not going to be fed. I am in shock. I think this is very rude. I then asked if kids were welcome and he said of course they are. Now I am very upset and confused. I suppose she will eat me plate then and we will eat before we go (the wedding is at 5 pm). Well now I wonder will she have a chair or does she have to sit in my lap? Is she allowed to have cake? I know that I should just get a sitter but I dont want to. There will be very few people I know and my husband is in the bridal party so she will keep me company. I am very irritated but trying to be gracefull and not ruin there time. Please tell me what you all think.
That is weird. They shouldn't say your DD is welcome and then refuse to feed her. That's a tough spot. Good luck!
Sounds strange to me that you can bring kids but they don't get to eat, but any who what i would do is take dd but feed her before you go and take a snack for her. If she is anything like my dd she won't eat a whole lot and may not even want to eat. I am sure that their will be some cake for her, have a dance and enjoy the wedding.
I would pack her a little bag full of snacks, sandwiches etc...she'd enjoy having her little picnic next to mummy, yoiu can always give her bits of ur chicken etc. I woudlnt feed her before u go...thats just cruel as she'd just have to sit and watch everyone else eat!
I think its odd a little but still better than a wedding reception with no option of bringing the children. If your dd doesn't eat much anyway I would just feed her from hubs and my plate. If she does I would order her a plate and pay the cost. The cake I'm guessing is okay for anyone and the seating is probably going to be okay too but if you are in doubt call and ask.
Personally I have never and would never bring a child to a wedding unless they were part of the ceremony! I love weddings and don't want to be busy trying to entertain and keep my child quiet, I'd much rather enjoy the show! I also don't think its fair to the child to sit there and have to be on their best behavior etc. during what would be a BORING event for them!
When my husband was a part of the party at one of the weddings we went to I met some really nice people at the table I was sitting at and after dinner everyone leaves their tables and your hubby can then sit with you!
Anyways, it sounds ilke they don't want to offend anyone by saying NO children aren't welcome, so instead they will try to make it not kid friendly so that hopefully you'll leave them at home where they can be fed etc!. Just the way I read into it all! Was your childs name on the invite?
I think that's ridiculous. Seriously if you dont want to feed the kids then dont invite them. Nothing wrong with that. But to say sure come but you dont get to eat- when everyone else is- thats insulting. Poor kids. I think you are totally justified in how you are feeling, I would feel the same way. I guess you could bring her a snack but I would ask if she gets a seat at the table. Might be rude haha but maybe they would get the point without you being nasty. Weird thing to do IMO
They are willing to invite kids but not feed them...?mmmmk..
I think it is odd that you can bring your child but they are not going to feed her. I would suggest, like some of the other women did, to pack a bag for her to eat.
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