I'm tired of my holidays always sucking! Vent.

[ballerina18]

Hello Ladies,

Well, I get to spend St. Paddy's Day home alone with DD while SO goes out and parties with his friends.   =(

I am BIG on holidays!! We never could celebrate them when I was a kid, so now as an adult I want them to be super special. My SO hates holidays. He couldn't care less about them.

Anyway, he is taking a vacation day today and is going out drinking with tons of ppl from his work. He deserves a night to himself. He hasn't gone out with friends in a long time. I just wish he would have invited me to go to. I could have found a sitter. I don't have any friends in this town and I could use the social interaction.

The hardest thing for me though is...I feel like now that I am a parent I am being punished. Like I am not allowed to have any fun. I have  never gone out and gotten trashed and dressed in green on St. Paddy's day, I've never celebrated a Mardi Gras, I've never been taken to a romantic dinner on Valentines Day, and it's the same way for almost every holiday! It feels like the only day we try to make special is Thanksgiving. I'm only 23 years old!!!!

I just want to have fun too. I  want my SO and I to be able to go out together and enjoy life. I feel like my life is passing me by.

POOP!

Anyone  else feeling the same way today?

[MsDean]

 I don't really care for St. pattys day but I get where you are coming from. Maybe next time you can host a St Patty day party at your place for dh's coworkers and any other friends.

 

[Bennett121]

 me too

[haydensmama08]

I feel the same way to some times. I think sometime our dh's think that we are just happy to stay home while they go out. They seem to forget that we married them because we love them and want to spend time with them as well. You need to take that insinuative. get a babysitter and tell him we are going out tonight and i am not taking no for an answer.

[Just_Bethy]

 How come he didn't "invite"  you..? I put it in "" as its automatic that we go out as a couple...I can't imagine being left behind..nor would I go out drinking without hubby....I guess every couple is different...but..is odd to me...Have you tried telling him how you feel?

[Trishintraining]

 You should've invited yourself along! That's what I would've done :) I know what you mean, though. I'm 24, and DS is 2, and sometimes I feel like I missed out on all the good party years. I miss being able to just  go out, and do whatever. You should let your SO know, and make it a priority for you to get out some!

[ballerina18]

Quoting MsDean:

 I don't really care for St. pattys day but I get where you are coming from. Maybe next time you can host a St Patty day party at your place for dh's coworkers and any other friends.

 

Thank you for responding. It feels good to be understood. I like your idea about holding a party for SO's friends! I'll definitely pitch the idea to him!!!

I just feel really lonely on any holiday, whether I like the holiday or not. I have my DD and SO, but I don't have any friends or family out here. I am okay with that most of the time, but since holidays are all about friends and family its hard for me.

[mommybug77]

 He is not Irish so he would not be out drinking today unless I decided to go (I am Irish). I made an Irish dinner, took older 2 girls to my MIL & we had sex today. Pretty good day for me :) sorry you are not enjoying yourself though

[Heath77]

Sorry that happened to you. I would be very hurt and upset if my hubby did that.  I was dying to go have some green beer at our local Irish Pub with my husband but my son was cranky later in the day and didn't want to stay the night with my parents and they live an hour away so it was too late after i went over there for them to come to our house to babysit. I was so bummed since I rarely even get out anymore. There were so many people out tonight too when I drove home past all the bars and resturants along the highway. It is spring break too this week so I was off and don't have to work tomorrow. So you weren't the only one at home tonight. I didn't go out for Vday this year either like usual. Things change so much when you have young kids.

[tazmidgiefairy]

my DH went out tonight and claims to only have one beer he went out with one of neighbors so he might be telling the truth but I hate when he goes out with out me but what gets me is the one time i went out with him he fliped

[ballerina18]

Quoting Just_Bethy:

 How come he didn't "invite"  you..? I put it in "" as its automatic that we go out as a couple...I can't imagine being left behind..nor would I go out drinking without hubby....I guess every couple is different...but..is odd to me...Have you tried telling him how you feel?

Well, I am a college student. Last year I would have a girls night out with my best friend every Saturday night. It was really good for me and SO was great about it. He would watch DD and I'd go out without him. He never had a boys night out. My best friend moved away so I don't go out anymore. Now it seems like he is the one with friends. He totally deserves a boys night out and I'm fine with it. I want him to go out and have fun with his friends

I just wish he hadn't made a boys night out on a holiday--since I am all about holidays.

We don't have friends or family to watch our DD so going out on a date with my SO just doesn't happen. We make the best of it, but it really gets to me on holidays...

I need to make some damn friends! =P LOL