an 18 y/o bossing ME around? oh no....

[strawberryLVR]

I spent a few days with my sister last week and she was joking about how she fakes that her life is good and was being funny saying " my boobs are fake, my happiness is fake I really love fake, fake fake fake...she was teasing.. today she posted on her Facebook "I LOVE MY LIFE !!!!!!" so as a joke i replied "liar" and people started to FREAK OUT. my sister and I disagree a lot we are very different {she's 30} I'm 28 and we have a cousin that is 18 who is a self righteous turd. I never thought this until today but this is the convo that went on. I want to know if any one thinks I was being too unreasonable. this gal has had life handed to her on a silver platter, rich dad etc..never had a single trial ever. I say dont fight with someone if they are double your age or older and also especially if you have no credentials! lol

{my cousin jessies comment on sisters Facebook}

Tina, I'm sorry and I love you to bits and pieces, but you need to shut up.

{My comment back}

whatever, crystal told me she was faking it a few days ago! obviously this is an inside joke that people are reading too much into!

jessie:

Tina, you are a cyber bully. If you were in Texas you would be committing a misdemeanor. You can't just say crap and "lol" it off. That's wrong. Crystal is family, and family doesn't hurt family because if you don't have family to hold you then you don't have anything.

SO I email her....

ME:
Don't read into it Jessie. Crystal and I had a big convo on it last weekend and she sat and told me how she fakes being happy, fake boobs, fake happy, fake everything..etc...she knows what I'm talking about. Everyone needs to stop freaking about it. There is no drama atattched to it like everyone thinks.

JESSIE:
Tina, that's where you're wrong. There is way too much drama attached to this. That's all there is between you and Crystal. Drama. Drama. Drama. You really really hurt Crystal. You did Tina. You. She opened up to you and you had to go and blab. That was real mature Tina. You're the adult here, but the two of you are acting like little girls. I mean really, over facebook? This is what kids in junior high do. Handle this like an adult Tina and don't go explaining it to me. I'm not the one who's feelings you hurt.

ME:
Jessie you were not there,Why do you think you know? She was joking to me and her friend at her house that she loves everything fake "my boobs are fake, and I love anything fake, I fake being happy, I fake my life is great.. etc... Jessie what you said was way more rude then me saying "Liar" to her about a joke we shared last weekend. The only thing I did wrong here is joke to her the way she jokes to me. The only thing I could have done different is not say anything. But you shouldn't butt in where you don't know what is going on either. Part of being an adult is knowing when to mind your own buisness. It has nothing to do with you or anyone else?! What is it you told me last time we talked, about how if we really knew the perception of the other person we would think a lot differently? Crystal and I shared the whole weekend together, and there was no drama. You just butted in and added a WHOLE lot more drama to the convo that was un-neccessary and not even there! Be careful what you say Jessie. Telling me you love me but to shut up is more bully-ish then an inside joke between crystal and I, and I said was "liar". I'm sorry that you feel like you know so much about this. You are 18. You can't get mad at me for doing something when you just did it at the exact same time! I called crystal last Sunday and told her that I hated that there was a gap between us and I wanted it gone. That I was willing to accept what I had done to not make things better. She said she loved me and was proud of me etc..does that sound like angry drama to you? Don't assume you know whats going on. Sorry to tell you this all. I have no hard feelings toward you. I love you and think you are a neat girl. Just don't read into things you don't know about ~Tina

Jessie:
Tina first and foremost I'm not mad. I'm grateful that you're honest with me, but I just don't know who to believe between the two of you. This is what I know, Crystal was really offended by what you said on facebook. Really hurt. Inside jokes don't hurt people. And facebook is hardly the place for an inside joke like that. It just doesn't transfer well, this is obviously a great example of that.
And Tina, sometimes you need to be told to shut up. I'm not sorry about that. Love is blunt sometimes, you're a Bartlett, you should know that. I'm sorry you took it the wrong way, but look at what you were writing, not from your perspective, but just read it without faces, that was really mean.
And you're right, I didn't know the whole perspective, but joke or no, when someone is getting hurt, it needs to stop. I'm not saying I know what the crap went on between the two of you last weekend at all, but facebook is not the place for a joke like that when you guys are just patching things up.

ME:
it was HER joke! not mine! I was just reminding her. not to compare but it was harmless compared to the things she has said to me on FB. How was SHE offended when she herself laughed about it?

JESSIE:
I don't know Tina, but that's Crissy. I just think that you guys need to keep your relationship off facebook, just delete each other as friends because it's just been trouble all year long. If it just stayed between you and Crissy, then whatever, but it never is. You guys are family so that brings more family in, and in today's case, everyone and their mother too. I don't know what the answer is for the two of you and maybe what you did is the first step on the right path, but this really shouldn't be such a big problem.

  ME:
People including family bring THEMSELVES into other people's business. They have the choice. How could it have been trouble all year long when I've only ever commented on her page 3 times? The drama is all in your perception of it Jessie. You can't say what should or shouldn't be a problem. You haven't been in her shoes or in mine or in ours as sisters who grew up together. It is what it is. and it's NO ONES business and it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks

Jessie:
It's not just my persception Tina, the whole family thinks this. And if you're snapping at anyone for bringing it up or saying anything than that's a problem.

ME:
Sorry Jessica but IT'S NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS! Just because I have family doesn't make it there buisness either. No where does it say
"get involved in family's business only" Anytime you get involved in anyones business but your own you will be miserable. There are 3 kinds of business in the world, mine {mine a nd mine alone}, the worlds {things we have no control over} and other peoples, it's proven that anytime you are involved in anyones business but your own you will be miserable. You are the only one that "brings it up" if she has a problem she wants to deal with that's her business to talk to me no ones elses. get it? How crystal and I deal with eachother is no ones business if she wants to come to me she will. You still have a lot to learn. things that college can't teach you jessie. It's not your job to fix things and it's a battle you will not win because it's not yours to fight.

she hasn't replied again I'm hoping I shut her up! I can't believe I was even fighting with an 18 year old! was I wrong?

[SugarGuru]

18= right to vote, right to be an adult, held accountable for all their actions by law

so fight, shoot......she's an adult, if she can't handle the heat, get out of the kitchen

[Clairwil]

Quoting strawberryLVR:

today she posted on her Facebook "I LOVE MY LIFE !!!!!!" so as a joke i replied "liar"

was I wrong?

Yes.