Found an email - i think he's cheating UPDATE!!!!!!

[1kid]

Tonight I was bathing our 2 youngest boys. I came out here to get my camera when I noticed the red light on his blackberry was flashing. Thinking nothing of it I picked up the phone and clicked it on. I see a new email from some weird screen name and the subect was re:new to Cali... Again, not thinking anything at first I said to my hubby, "you got an email...new to Cali???". Hindsight is 20/20 - I should have shut my mouth and read it because that man jumped up and snatched the phone and shoved it in his pocket. I asked him what it was and he made up some lame excuse that it was his buddy's friend that sent a resume for him to forward to his boss. I said lemme see it. He refused. I cried and asked again. He refused. In my gut I knew he was lying. Then he gets up and goes outside and takes a damn walk down the street. Comes back 10 minutes later and I asked if he had deleted it and he said yes. He said that I wouldn't shut up about it so he had to delete it. I never ever had doubt in his faithfulness before and this feels like a nightmare! I am sleeping in my son's room tonight. I can't look at him. I even asked calmly for the truth. Told him we could discuss it and depending on how far the affair went we could work it out. He still denies it. I cannot look at him I cannot sleep with him. How do I go on knowing in my heart he is cheating or trying to cheat? We have only been married a little over a year together for 7. What do I do?? And no I cannot check his email from here. It is a work account only available on his BB or at work.

OMG ladies here is the email I just received from my husband.

Look I am sorry for last night, but I AM NOT CHEATING on you. Here is the email below, it is about weed, that is why I didn’t want to show it to you. I am sorry.

I love you

Your HUSBAND

Dominic Affex [mailto:jerk]
Sent: Wednesday, March 17, 2010 7:37 PM
To: name
Subject: Re: new to cali

I would really appreciate it if you could do that for me. I will tell Derrick when I see him this weekend.

Sent from my iPhone

On Mar 17, 2010, at 3:26 PM, "my husband> wrote:

I am not sure why Derrick would have told you that, I haven’t smoked in quite some time now. I haven’t spoken with Derrick for quite some time either. I could probably hook you up with someone that could help though if you are interested. By the way tell Derrick to give me a call, I would like to hear from him.

-my husband

From: Dominic Affex [mailto: asshole]
Sent: Wednesday, March 17, 2010 3:25 PM
To: name
Subject: new to cali

Hey name,

My name is Dominic, Derrick gave me your email address and said you could get some good kush? I just moved here from Colorado and haven’t smoked anything in a few weeks. Let me know if you can get something for me and how much it would be.

Sent from my iPhone

Ladies, if my husband ever really does cheat I will come to you for support. You are all amazing!

*** So a lot of you think he's lying??? Why?? All I can do is keep my eyes open in the future.

[ready_for2]

MAJOR RED FLAGS!!!!!

i agree, i think he's cheating, or at least trying to

[1kid]

I think he's trying to as well. I think he's talking to women for possible hook ups. I don't know what to do. I want the truth out of him.

[Susan0805]

have a friend start emailing him and see how far it goes. THat will be your concrete proof if he refuses to talk about it!

[LiesLiesLies]

He is cheating...or at least trying to. This probably isn't the first time and telling him "we can work it out" immediately after you found out is a huge mistake. He will probably keep cheating on you because now he knows he can.

[ANandLPsMom]

 honestly, check craigslist to see if he posted and ad titled new to cali..

[burch731]

Definately sounds like he is talking to women ~ whether or not he has actually already done something who knows.  But the hiding of the phone & deleting things that you don't want others to read are definate signs. 

[mommatbot]

I think you have enough proof. At least it would be enough for me.

I'm sorry for this crap your dealing with.

Quoting Susan0805:

have a friend start emailing him and see how far it goes. THat will be your concrete proof if he refuses to talk about it!

[Gecko85]

Go with your gut. I am sorry sweetie, but mine says he is cheating too. He would have just shown it to you if he wasn't rather than go through all this hassle.

You could always have someone from here e-mail him and say they saw him online and thought he was hot etc. etc. and see what he says. Like they saw his profile. They don't have to say on where. They pretty much all list e-mail addresses.

[SpiritedTigress]

I'll check it for you.

I'm so sorry sweetie... What do you plan on doing?

[Moonwhispers]

I'm sorry Mama.  I hope that everything works out for you