DH wants me to get to TX and learn my way around in TWO WEEKS... I grew up in small town Indiana... I'm afraid to drive in BLOOMINGTON... and don;t even get me started on semi's... I panic if they get too close.... I'm horrible with directions... I know NOTHING about life on an army base and he wants me to get there in mid-month and he leaves shortly after for training and then he deploys shortly after that.... So I'm hesitant to move so far from home alone with these babies... but he claims he can;t live in the barracks there... we can't afford to rent him an apartment there and me one here... so now WTH am I supposed to do? He's calling me in the morning for an answer... Do I suck it up and move and do my best alone or figure out how to pay for two apartments and go spend the last month or two with him as originally planned?
It is NOT that I am unwilling to move at all I just want him to compromise instead of wanting it HIS way completely disregarding my point of view. He refuses to even listen to me... he told me earlier he DOESN'T CARE that I am uncomfortable and scared.... I'm willing to compromise but not to be walked on.... I refuse to do anything just because he wants me to... he needs to at least listen to my point of view and consider it too... this marriage does not and will not revolve around him only...
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FOR THE LOVE OF GOD PEOPLE!!!!! It was just a vent and getting my concerns out so he never finds out.... he said I'm moving so I'm moving... I would have liked him to compromise but since he won;t and I have no say in this I'm doing what I'm told...
Everyone happy?
Shit nice to know I'm not allowed a voice in my own life or even to vent....
Have a WONDERFUL day.
Your married so yes you should move there for your husbands job. Maybe you could look at some maps of the city where you are going and get to knwo the main streets. I am sure in no time you will learn your way around. I went to go visit in laws in Ut last year and within 2 days I knew the main streets and was able to navigate around to the mall, grocery store and the family we were staying with. Good luck momma!
We had agreed that we would go down there to spend some time with him before he deploys but I don;t think it's reasonable to expect me to move up there with an 18mo and a 1mo alone... no one else thinks it's reasonable either... What happens if we can't find a place for me and the kids to live before he leaves?
Quoting MsDean:
Your married so yes you should move there for your husbands job. Maybe you could look at some maps of the city where you are going and get to knwo the main streets. I am sure in no time you will learn your way around. I went to go visit in laws in Ut last year and within 2 days I knew the main streets and was able to navigate around to the mall, grocery store and the family we were staying with. Good luck momma!
I agree with you, stay put! He is going to be deployed anyway, tell him to suck it up!
Quoting armywifenmom09:We had agreed that we would go down there to spend some time with him before he deploys but I don;t think it's reasonable to expect me to move up there with an 18mo and a 1mo alone... no one else thinks it's reasonable either... What happens if we can't find a place for me and the kids to live before he leaves?
Quoting MsDean:
Your married so yes you should move there for your husbands job. Maybe you could look at some maps of the city where you are going and get to knwo the main streets. I am sure in no time you will learn your way around. I went to go visit in laws in Ut last year and within 2 days I knew the main streets and was able to navigate around to the mall, grocery store and the family we were staying with. Good luck momma!
But if he can't live in the barracks then what? We can't afford two apartments but I'm terrified to move with him leaving for training less than two weeks after I get there... IDK that just scares the living daylights out of me....
Quoting Sparkle2000:
I agree with you, stay put! He is going to be deployed anyway, tell him to suck it up!
Quoting armywifenmom09:
We had agreed that we would go down there to spend some time with him before he deploys but I don;t think it's reasonable to expect me to move up there with an 18mo and a 1mo alone... no one else thinks it's reasonable either... What happens if we can't find a place for me and the kids to live before he leaves?
Quoting MsDean:
Your married so yes you should move there for your husbands job. Maybe you could look at some maps of the city where you are going and get to knwo the main streets. I am sure in no time you will learn your way around. I went to go visit in laws in Ut last year and within 2 days I knew the main streets and was able to navigate around to the mall, grocery store and the family we were staying with. Good luck momma!
Get a GPS. I have moved 4 times in 5 yrs to 4 different cities/states. He just got me a GPS and it makes things easier, but before I had it I survived lol...
Get a GPS, they are resaonably priced and they are miracle workers, I live in southern california, its SO easy to get lost here, esp when one road goes into like 4 different cities...and trust me, you can find a place to live quickly, apartments aren't hard to come by, then you can get on the waiting list for housing on post(if that is what you want) and then move there.
Part of being a military wife is having to move and learn to live onyour own. What will you do if you guys get stationed in another country? Trust me it sucks being away from family and being in a new place where you don't know anyone or where anything is, but you married a military man, you have to suck it up and be supportive and part of that is being there when he needs you.
I thought about a GPS.... I couldn't figure out my MIL's but I'm pretty sure with a little time I could figure one out... It's worth a shot...
Quoting CoastieWifePR:
Get a GPS. I have moved 4 times in 5 yrs to 4 different cities/states. He just got me a GPS and it makes things easier, but before I had it I survived lol...
We were married before he joined... and this was HIS idea... IDK it would be one thing if I had a chance to at least figure out where the necessary places (PX, comissary, Walmart and Verizon store) were but I don't even have that...
It doesn't help that my aunt and grandma are scaring me even more... with horror stories and telling me I can't do this....
He's used to this type of thing... I'm not.... The furthest I've ever been from my home is 15 miles....
Quoting gigglefiend121:
Part of being a military wife is having to move and learn to live onyour own. What will you do if you guys get stationed in another country? Trust me it sucks being away from family and being in a new place where you don't know anyone or where anything is, but you married a military man, you have to suck it up and be supportive and part of that is being there when he needs you.
The same thing happend to me. My husband up and decided he was going to Join the military while I was at my parents house recovering from having my appendix removed. We moved to California after he got out of boot camp, I had always lived in Oregon before and no more than 30 minutes from my parents. Even if he decided it you stuck by him and the decision and you are going to have to deal with all the crap that comes with being a military wife. You will have to learn to be more independent and you need to let your family know that new situations are scary and hard but you need their support.
Quoting armywifenmom09:
We were married before he joined... and this was HIS idea... IDK it would be one thing if I had a chance to at least figure out where the necessary places (PX, comissary, Walmart and Verizon store) were but I don't even have that...
It doesn't help that my aunt and grandma are scaring me even more... with horror stories and telling me I can't do this....
He's used to this type of thing... I'm not.... The furthest I've ever been from my home is 15 miles....
Quoting gigglefiend121:
Part of being a military wife is having to move and learn to live onyour own. What will you do if you guys get stationed in another country? Trust me it sucks being away from family and being in a new place where you don't know anyone or where anything is, but you married a military man, you have to suck it up and be supportive and part of that is being there when he needs you.
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- armywifenmom09
on Mar. 18, 2010 at 2:21 AM