Sooo...the S/O didn't come home last night. What would you do?

[MommySteph06]

It was St. Patrick's Day. Which to him equals a free pass to go get sh*tfaced drunk since he's practically 100% Irish. I was pissed that he was going out last night. I haven't been myself lately and I've been talking to him about it. He knows I'm stressed and really need his help. But instead of helping me, what does he do? Says he's going to the doctor (which he did), but doesn't come home for 3 hours! He went to the bar instead. Then met some dude and brought him to our house to hang out. THEN had the neighbors over so there were 5 guys drinking in my garage until midnight or so. Then he freakin' left! He gave me no explaination just said, "I'll be back later" and left before I had time to question anything. Then I wake up at 6 this morning and he's still not home! I called him and he didn't answer. Go figure. But he called back and said he ended up staying at a friend's house 30 minutes away. He said he'd call me right back and still hasn't and won't answer his phone again (that was 2 hours ago). I am beyond pissed!

I've been so stressed lately. I don't want to yell and get angry because that will only add to my stress, but I can't let this go. He needs to know this way wrong! What can I do to get my stress in check but still make him take my anger seriously?

[xXxLillithxXx]

 Man...I dunno. My ex did things like that. I would just let him know your angry about it and that things aren't going to be pleasant until he discusses it with you.

[alwayzsmiling82]

Ohhh momma!  I would be livid!  I am so sorry :(

[CeeLee85]

change the locks until you cool down enough for his ass to come home and talk about it!  ooo i would be so mad.  DH went to a xmas party for his work in december.  he told me he would be home by 2.  his ass didn't get home til 6 in the morning i was sooo pissed and he just acted like nothing was wrong and it was his works fault.  we fought about it for like 3 days straight neither of us caved we just finally had to stop fighting about it. ugh stoopid men

[marshakay]

tell him (calmly) that you were worried when you woke up cause he didn't call and leave a message saying he was fine

[allurasmamma]

 i would suggest just not talking about this for a couple days. Heck he might not even remember some of it. But it is your business so get at it in a couple days. Let everyone's mind clear. My X used to disappear at times, but he was on drugs.

Maybe he next time, you can go out and leave his ass at home.

[jillbailey26]

Don't talk to him.  Don't call.  Don't do anything.  Ignoring him and giving him a silent treatment for a while will do more damage than yelling and it will be a lot less stressful on you.  Then it'll give you both time to organize your thoughts and address the problem like adults.

If he tries to talk to you, tell him that you need some time to calm down because you are extremely angry and walk away.

[MzSeXyC]

i would be pissed.

im fine with my man going out alone and having a good time with friends.

what your man has done is just crazy to me...you just dont act like that im sorry.

i wouldnt try calling him anymore. try to cool off and get your thoughts together. and when he comes home discuss it calmly. 

[vanillagirl422]

change the lock on the front door w/ the lock on the back door. Men are idiots by nature, it's just in their DNA. You have to spell it out for him as if he were a child. If all else fails, kick him in the nuts. That seems to get ANY message across. (j/k, I'm against violence)

[zoeysmom331]

 I don't know what I would do hun. DD's dad did that to me when I was 7.5 months pregnant. Neither him or his friend would answer their phones and he didn't get home until 7am the next day. I was livid and did NOT keep my stress level down. I'm sorry he's being such a jerk mama.

[amber_1024]

 

Quoting jillbailey26:

Don't talk to him.  Don't call.  Don't do anything.  Ignoring him and giving him a silent treatment for a while will do more damage than yelling and it will be a lot less stressful on you.  Then it'll give you both time to organize your thoughts and address the problem like adults.

If he tries to talk to you, tell him that you need some time to calm down because you are extremely angry and walk away.