Does it make a difference?

[Ashgambit]

Ok ladies, I want your honest, 100% authentic opinion.  Do your replies to posts differ depending on the tone of the post?  For example, let's say that the topic is milk.  Some women give their kids whole, some 2%, some 1%, some skim, soy, lactose free, whatever.  Now, if someone were to post something like this:

"I can't believe some Moms are so stupid as to give their kids whole milk knowing it's bad for them because of this and that.  How can Moms be that stupid, it's not fair to the kids to have stupid Moms." 

How would you react?  Would you react the same if they had posted this:

"I have been told, or am under the impression, that whole milk is bad for kids.  Do you think it's a bad idea to give it to your kids?"

Or how about this:

"A study shows that whole milk hinders the growth of children, here's the study (then give a URL or article name, and the people who did the study)." 

Are you going to feel personally insulted in every one of those methods of posting for giving your children whole milk, or are you going to differ in your reaction to each?  It just surprises me that some people don't expect a negative reaction to the way they post things. 

And btw I do no know anything about which kind of milk is supposed to be best, I was only giving an example.

[BonitaM]

Yes absolutely.

[ItsBethy_4180]

I personally am going to show respect in my reply to someone who asks respectfully. Someone rude...i might just ignore, let the other women on here do the snarky for me, because i know they will. If i am feeling the mood hit though i will usually have a similarly snotty tone back in my reply. What can i say? lol.

[momcat437]

 I'm always telling my dh that it's not what you said, it's how you say it...

[AngelicaRenee]

Quoting BonitaM:

Yes absolutely.

[twitchymom78]

yea it makes a difference.... if you are rude in the post,  i might be rude back.

[Jmill907]

My opinion is my opinion.  It's not going to change based on how someone says things.  I might look into the study that they are talking about, but why change how you react to something because of the tone of the message.  Honestly, if someone is aggressive in their post, I'm less likely to respond based on what I feel is a lack of respect to others anyway.

[hatinnd]

 I've noticed that opinions can be swayed by other opinions...

The replies will be anti, until Someone is pro - then others will speak up for the pro side.

[anikahaynes1]

Quoting momcat437:

 I'm always telling my dh that it's not what you said, it's how you say it...

me too!!!

[hallen08]

One sounds demeaning and insulting. The other sounds like they have formed an opinion themselves, but wonder about other moms and their opinions.