16 & Pregnant! They're all the sameeee!!!! ugh.

[MrsThompson1023]

Idk if its just me or not, but it seems like all of these girls are the same.

I am 21 now, but I got pregnant at 18. My Boyfriend and I moved into an appartment, and Noah ended up being stillborn. It changed my whole life and my view on everything. We got married and planned our next baby, who I had just before my 20th birthday. She is now 21 months old and is the VERY best thing that has ever happened to me. We bought a house, my husband has a good job, we have a sweet little dog, and now another baby on the way due in November. but it seems like so many of these teen parents are all the same. Fighting constantly & HORRIBLE DADS.

Im not saying someone who is just like me, but someone who ends up moving in with there boyfriend and MAKING it work, ya know. Not all young dads are bad dads... and this is what this show is making it out to be. Gary wasnt BAD per say, but he wasnt anywhere near the kind of 'Daddy' my husband is. Tyler seems nice, but they didnt have their baby with them, ya know. I know Im probably going to get bashed for this... I just wish I could relate to one of these girls. I know they are trying not to glamorize pregnancy, but my life is perfect now & I wouldnt have it any other way. & maybe showing someone like me, would sort of be glamorizing it, but we have deffinitly had our fair share of issues. A stillborn baby, Financial troubles because my husband got laid off from his job... etc. no one is perfect.

Anyone else in the same boat as me? I am not trying to be rude... AT ALL. Im not one to get on here and cause drama. What does everyone else think?? I would just loveee them to have a supportive, loving dad who would bend over backwards for his girlfriend and their baby. not all young dads are like this.

ahhh, sorry.. i just had to vent. lol.
IDK.... Maybe I'm just different??

[isra1986]

I am a "young" mom, had DD at 21 and my DH is an  awesome (but not young) dad!
Statistically, what they show on that show is real life. Most teen/young couples don't make it.

[alexhuntercody]

you are in the minority. its not likely to happen. Most teenage couples do not make it. Its just facts. Im glad you found a good man. Im glad you are happy but i really doubt that there are many teenage couples out there at 15 16 who are like you and your husband.

[bolz08]

I think that a lot of these girls (on the show) are spoiled, entitled little brats...so they can't get it right and the only ones that were even close were the couple that gave their baby up for adoption last season......I think the Macy girl last season was really trying too, stupid guy though.

[MyEggoIzPreggo]

I agree.

Quoting alexhuntercody:

you are in the minority. its not likely to happen. Most teenage couples do not make it. Its just facts. Im glad you found a good man. Im glad you are happy but i really doubt that there are many teenage couples out there at 15 16 who are like you and your husband.

[iamcafemom83]

maybe they are showing the crappy side of being a teen mom....i think the show is meant to deter young teens from hving unprotected sex or no birth control....they cant exactly encourage it. on the other hand, it is too bad these young women have such  hard time, but its not sugar coated either.

op, its great that you have persevered. going through a stillbirth is something that i imagine is very very tough. congrats on your family though!

[Drippiningirls]

DH and I know we beat the odds.  I got pregnant at 17.  He said the decision was completely up to me but he'd support me no matter what my choice was.  I didn't hesitate on keeping my daughter.  We've now been married for 12 years and have four children.  We're so in love it makes our kids sick LOL.  DH won $100 on a scratch off lotto ticket and we just went out and bought three Wii games and pizza and had an awesome night with our girls.  We're very blessed.

[ashleigh24]

I know what you mean...I got so excited on one of the shows where the dad wasn't the best but he was trying...I can't remember his name but it wasn't last week the week before...when he was there with the baby (nevaeh was the baby's name) he did everything! That is the first dad I have seen that was actually really loving and cared so much! He wasn't perfect but at the end you could tell that he really cared about his child no matter what!

[MomTo2Boys2526]

I'm 21 with 3 kids..I had my oldest when I was 16 and honestly I never once acted like these girls! I am still with children's father and we are happily married =)

[ArmyWifeNoDrama]

I was 16 when I had my 1st and he was stillborn also. I got pregnant (with dh's baby the night he proposed) at 17 and had her at 18 we got married a month later. then even with bc, condoms, and spermacide i got pregnant again and had ds at 19 just turned 20, ds is 8 months and dd is 20 months. I can say they are the best things to happen to me and I am in college going into nursing. I dont live with momma and hubby joined the military to support our family which at the time didnt include our son. we make it work and dont use pa. Id say were doing pretty damn well. hes 24 and i being 20./

[-Kney-]

 I've noticed that too.

I was 16 when I had my son, my husband(bf at the time) was only 18. We made it. 3 months after my son was born I moved out of my house into my husband's parents house. Then the start of my Junior year in High School we got an apartment together. We made it through all that. Then once I graduated in May of 2008 2 months after we got married plus we bought our first house together.

I do know most young couples don't stay together I only know 3 that's counting me who have stayed together. All of use are married plus 2 of them are having or had their 2nd child. I feel bad for the other mothers because the dads aren't in the child's life or they just don't take care of their kids.

We aren't perfect either like you said no one is. I lost my job at the school so that ment we lost a big chunk of our money for the bills, we fought a lot plus we went through a time where we was talking about leaving each other but we talked through it all && now we are doing okay. We are a little tight with money but we are making it.

I would also love to see more supportive dads on 16 & Pregnant plus I would also like to see more moms who are not stupid && rude to their parents. Not all of them are but mostly the ones I've seen lately are. I hope you guys get what I'm saying here I'm not even sure what I'm saying yet I know lol sry confusing.