I could just strangle her.

[Squeakette]

Ugh. My mom. I love her, don't get me wrong. Here's what happened.

I am a cio mom. Go ahead and bash i dont care. This isnt about CIO. Anyway. My mom is half against CIO. She always told me to do it when my DD was younger (shes only 8 months btw) but in practice she never follows through. After 8 months of cio it was finally starting to work. My DD used to scream bloody murder when you put her down for naps, bed, and then when she got a bottle at night. FINALLY, last week before we moved she stopped doing that and went right down to bed with minimal fussing. AND I got her to sleep mostly through the night (she has nightmares, nothing I can do). I was so pleased. Then we moved.

Well, we had to leave DD at my moms for 4 days. Four whole days. My moms loves to spoil her only grandbaby. Never puts her down even for a minute. Also doesnt listen to me about bed time and naptimes. Seems to think when i say "Put her down when she starts rubbing her eyes and she'll go to sleep in about 5 minutes" that what i said was "keep her up untill shes fussing and crying for bed, and then pick her up every time she fusses for more than a minute." Ugh.

Now, I have a fussing at nap/bed time, screaming when we leave, having hard time getting to sleep 8 month old who is driving me up the wall. I do appreciate my mom watching her, as i really needed it, but I'm tired of the concenquences.

[juveli]

wow, but i think thats how all gramas are...my mom does that as well but sometimes enough is enought you need to talk to her and tell her how hard it is for you to put her to bed at home.

[Squeakette]

Quoting juveli:

wow, but i think thats how all gramas are...my mom does that as well but sometimes enough is enought you need to talk to her and tell her how hard it is for you to put her to bed at home.

I tried that. She doesnt listen. I complaiend about it when dd was younger and my brother did it and the last time she had her she did it too. but shes only ever had dd for one or 2 days before. same with brother. this time as 4 days and the baby is impossible. I know its nt the baby's fault so i dont get mad..i'm just really tired of my mom underhanding me. If i say anything she gets mad "well i guess you just dont need to ask me for help" she'll say, or "its not like I didnt raise 3 kids I dont know anything at all." SO i just keep my mouth shut and try to correct the wrong behaviors but i feel bad now that shes crying at night again.

[Brays-mama]

Sounds like gramma needs to realize that the only people suffering for not listening to you is you and your baby, because she does the damage and doesn't have to got thru the heart ache it causes. and of course then the baby is confused as to what is expected when it is bedtime.

I don't have any advise as to what to do because thankfully both of my son's gramma's seem to listen pretty good about what rules we have set so far. He is only 5 months so we don't have to many. The only times we had to really speak up is when one gramma kept going in his room while he was sleeping (he is a light sleeper) and then because she was buying him WAY to much stuff. He had more clothes than I do. LOl

[Squeakette]

Yeah she checks on dd a lot too. And I keep telling her "Ma, she can smell you because she knows your scent and finds comfort in it, so she wakes up. She's breathing, stop going in there." She's an advanced little baby, has been since birth, so she doesnt need to worry ablout sids. If the kid can STAND UP ON HER OWN she's not going to smother. and oh eyah, she doesnt have blankets and stuffed animals at grandmas, so again, no smothering. she called me frantic one of the nights because she went in there to see if the room was too warm (that room is ALWAYS freezing. has been for 9 years. not suddenly going to be too warm) and the baby woke up even though she was silent. she had no idea what to do witht his now crying baby. And she says things to me like "Well she didnt want to go back to sleep when she got up for a bottle so i played with her for an hour.." well duh. When she gets a bottle at night i go in, give it to her, she cries for a minute, then drinks it and goes to bed. but playing with her is teaching her night time is play time. ugggh.

sorry, still mad.