If you were sexually abused or raped...

[college.mom]

I have a question, after my sexual abuse I have worn only hoodies and sweat pants, or long pants, but nothing tight.  Does anyone else do that?  Did it eventually become something you could deal with and wear not so baggy clothes.  Even when I put on just a t-shirt I feel exposed. I am just wondering if I am the only 'weird' one out there.

[.Misha.]

Nope, I didn't let a horrible 'event' affect my entire life.

[sati769leigh]

Baggy, layers.

[kk_bella]

Now that you mention it, yes I did do that, I don't think I was conscious of it at the time. I think I likened it to other things that had happened in my past. Wow....lightbulbs just wnet off. I didn't really wear baggy clothes but I dressed like a dirty hippy.

[Kristanna]

 Some people handle trauma differently. But I can tell you that it's all in your head which you probably already know. You should def get some help to work through it, and hopefully one day you will be able to overcome your specific hang ups :)

[2love]

 Like kk_bella said I never noticed it either...but now that you say it yes...I actually had started dressin like a dude.Baggy pants and tshirts until about 2 yrs ago when my sisters basically threw away all my other clothes and took me shopping.

[adrianasmommy07]

 I dont wear 'baggy' clothes, but I never wear shorts or skirts, and I never wear low cut tops. I am covered from head to toe in well fitting, non revealing clothes.

[college.mom]

I completely know its all in my head.  In high school I dressed normal.  I wore skirts, dressy shirts, did my hair and make up.  Once I started doing that my stepdad started sexually abusing me so my brain connected the two, especially when my mom proceeded to tell me it was my fault.  I know its in my head, but sometimes the things in your head hold you back more then physical things.

Quoting Kristanna:

 Some people handle trauma differently. But I can tell you that it's all in your head which you probably already know. You should def get some help to work through it, and hopefully one day you will be able to overcome your specific hang ups :)

[Kristanna]

 That is called Classy :)

Quoting adrianasmommy07:

 I dont wear 'baggy' clothes, but I never wear shorts or skirts, and I never wear low cut tops. I am covered from head to toe in well fitting, non revealing clothes.

 

[Naegore]

 i put other. i don't wear baggy clothes but i do watch what i wear and i am very cautious around men. i guess uncomfortable is a better word.

[Kristanna]

 Absoultley! The things in your head are the hardest things to overcome, that is why smokers and drug addicts have such a hard time quitting.

Quoting college.mom:

I completely know its all in my head.  In high school I dressed normal.  I wore skirts, dressy shirts, did my hair and make up.  Once I started doing that my stepdad started sexually abusing me so my brain connected the two, especially when my mom proceeded to tell me it was my fault.  I know its in my head, but sometimes the things in your head hold you back more then physical things.

Quoting Kristanna:

 Some people handle trauma differently. But I can tell you that it's all in your head which you probably already know. You should def get some help to work through it, and hopefully one day you will be able to overcome your specific hang ups :)