Unexpectedly expecting #2... dying to be happy about this, but why isn't he?

[missmandalea]

Ok ok... so I'm not exactly pregnant per se... but the possibility is DEFINITLEY there. My husband and I had an "oops" moment 2 weeks or so ago. Well, not really an oops, he was drunk and full on let it go, lol, TMI I know, sorry. I am not and have not been on birth control since I had my last child 4 years ago. We had a long talk roughly 2 days after it happened and he wanted me to go and get an emergency contraceptive pill... and i started crying when he told me that. He just does not want another child PERIOD! Well, I went and got a Plan B. There is a good possiblity that it didnt work because of the fact that it was close to the 72 hour limit AND there is a certain medication that i take that could also decrease the effectiveness of the pill. I should find out by next week if I am... and here is the kicker... if I am... he wants me to get an ABORTION. Now, hear me out on this one... I AM ALL FOR THE WOMEN'S RIGHT TO CHOOSE, however, I do not agree in aborting a pregnancy just because your husband thinks it is inconvinient. I know that if like, one in a million chance, I let him talk me into it, I could never forgive myself.

I don't know what to do... I guess I am just venting. I have wanted another baby for SO LONG and not that the opportunity has finally presented itself I feel as though I am the only one in the world that is happy about it. He even went so far as to tell me that if I did have the baby, the baby would be nothing more than a mistake.

[gmswife]

Oh my gosh I'm so sorry to hear that!!! Maybe he'll start thinking about it and come around to the idea of having another one. Goodluck!!

[devomoma]

hope he comes around!!

[Sparkey6987]

 :( Maybe he'll come around?

[lilmom71]

If he didn't want anymore children then he should of gotten fixed.

[NattysMommy]

 For the potential child's sake, I hope he comes around :( Good Luck Momma

[jessigarrett]

wow i think i would kick my husbands ass and if i didnt my family would! you NEVER call a child a mistake!

[norahsmommy]

Thats pretty harsh of him to say. Perhaps he is just venting his wost possible thoughts about the possibility?  But if you are pregnant and he wants you to have an abortion I think you should definitly have some talks and possilby some counseling.  If he is dead set on not supporting you and your child YOU MADE TOGETHER then that is a deal breaker to me.  i would not accept a man who treated a beloved darling child 'as nothing more than a mistake'.  No sense in getting up in arms about it yet, but if you are pregnant you need to talk.  Good luck, so sorry you are going though this. 

[AllAboutYou1223]

 You said it yourself... You are a fan of a womans right to choose.

So if you are pregnant.. its YOUR CHOICE! He might be upset about it, but at the end of the day you do what you feel is right in YOUR heart. I think your husband is being seriously selfish and if he knew he didn't want anymore kids he should have used a condom. Or you should be on birth control.

[2love]

 Im pretty sure hell come around...or at least I hope he will.

[debbie26]

 Well i hope he would change his mind if you are......Good Luck girl..... Be happy