I was shocked when I made another post about my mom seeing my girls ONE time a month, and how she acts like it's a chore. She isn't babysitting for us, she is visiting with her grandkids. She takes them from 4pm til 10am, so it IS overnight. But I guess she sees it as doing us a favor somehow. So she bitches about it.
ANYWAY, I was just shocked that some of the moms said I should be paying her to watch the kids.
Her OWN grandkids.
It's not like I asked her to take them and said "Hey, we are going out". She said she wanted them once a month (to ease her own conscience, I'm sure), and we said we were fine with that.
Do you PAY your parents or in-laws to visit/watch with their own grandkids?
ETA: I don't mean while you work, or you saying "We are going out, will you watch them?" I mean my mom lives 20 minutes away and doesn't ever come to visit them so instead she chooses to take them one Saturday a month. When someone suggested that I should be paying her for it, I was shocked.
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No, my DDs grandparents usually kick me out to spend time with her alone. Even if I asked, I never really considered paying them, I know they wouldn't take the money.
Nope not unless it's for a weekend and we have plans like a hotel or something!
If my Mom kept my kids while I worked I would pay her. For her to keep them overnight or for a short visit I would not pay her.
BUT if she acted the way you describe your Mom as acting I would also NOT have her keeping my kids at all when I was not there. I would visit her for a few hours with the kids once a month if she really wanted to see them.
My fiances mother quit her job to watch her son and wouldn't take a dime from us. We've tired to do things to return the favor since she would be insulted to be given money, she feels that as his grandmother she would rather take care of him while we're at work/in school then a daycare. If she ever needed the money I sure as hell would pay her because she does a damn better job than any daycare. I think what I'm trying to say is it is case by case basis. It depends not only on the relationship between the family members but the economical situation as well as how long they have the children. In your case I wouldn't pay my mother. She asked for them then and its one time once a month. I think thats ridiculous.
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on Mar. 21, 2010 at 2:13 PM