Can't kids just be kid's these days? I feel this will be forcing my dd to grow up at a young age...

[luvmykaitygrace]

My dd has multiple half siblings all with different mothers. Her father I guess can't keep it in his pants. The newest child's mother wants the kids to be involved. Do you think it would better to just let the kids think they are friends until they get older and then we can explain the real relationship. I don't want to rush my dd's maturity and make her grow up too fast by having her deal with complex issues that are no fault of her own. What do you ladies think about this?

[Momyplease]

Well I don't know . My sons step brother and him knows their half brothers but he is a great kid and i love him like he is my own. I wouldn't want my son not knowing about his half brother. But each to its own. I don't know about growing up faster that way. sorry. but good luck

[XenaBeth]

My sibling situation is really complex as well, but we all knew we were siblings and have a bond because of it now. I dont think I really gave much thought about it until late middle school to be honest, I was just happy I had siblings to play with.

 Hope this helps :)

[judybant]

 See... but kids don't "judge"... and the fact of the matter is... if she hears, as a young kid that these are her brothers and sisters... it's much easier for her to accept. And if you DON'T tell her young, that they're all brothers and sisters, then when she's older, and you tell her, she's going to be resentful, possibly, that you denied her that pertinent information...

[MommyAkaTiffany]

 How old is your daughter?

[reecenkaden]

I grew up with multiple half siblings. All I knew is they were brothers and sisters of mine, and fun to play with. There was no complexity to us, we just were.

[ahyesme]

I would let them play for a while until you know if the mom is going to stay around .. You don't need people coming in and out of her life .. but if they are going to continue to be around I would tell her that it is her sibling for sure!

[luvmykaitygrace]

Thank you for your imput!

 

Quoting XenaBeth:

My sibling situation is really complex as well, but we all knew we were siblings and have a bond because of it now. I dont think I really gave much thought about it until late middle school to be honest, I was just happy I had siblings to play with.

 Hope this helps :)

[Larue09]

I don't think you should lie to your kids. tell them they are siblings, and if they ask further questions, answer them on a child-like level!

[mother_of_JGM]

You dont have to explain anything to her except that they are all her siblings, she has a right to grow up calling her brothers/sisters just that! I think its wrong not to tell her they are her siblings. Like I said you dont have to explain to her how that is just that her daddy is THEIR daddy too!

[luvmykaitygrace]

28 months

Quoting MommyAkaTiffany:

 How old is your daughter?