I need some serious advice!!

[ronandamy1]

 My DD is 9 and all she does is complain and tattle. I swear she is going to push me over the edge. She tells on EVERYONE for EVERYTHING and usually it is stupid crap that no one cares about. She complains like an old freakin lady. For example, earlier she came in and said "well this is just great, someone went to the bathroom and didn't flush." I said, "well did you flush it then?" Her response, "no but I bet it was Travis, he always does stuff like that." Seriously, why couldn't she have saved her breath and just flushed the damn toilet? I know that is a silly example, just the most recent. She has probably told on her siblings 30 times today and the things are just ridiculous. "Mom, Travis won't quit talking." "Mom, Macie used the rest of the paper towels and didn't put out a new roll." OMG she is going to make my head explode. Just so you all know, I have tried time outs, spankings, time in her room, behavior charts with rewards and grounding. She just isn't getting it and to be honest I can't take much more of it....she literally gives me a headache because half the time when she is tattling, she is yelling it from another room in the house. Someone please help me with this, I am desperate.

[lovinmyboys...]

 I'm confused as to what you are disciplining her for.  Is it because she's tattling or complaining? 

[ItsBethy_4180]

i have no advice, but i will say i think it is normal for kids to go through a phase like this. My old friends daughter did the same thing at the same age, and eventually she grew out of it. i wouldn't know what to do t o stop it having not been through it, and my old friend wasn't the best example on mothering so i wouldn't give you any advice using her parenting skills. lol.

[Shy_Dia]

 sounds like my 4 year old sister.. "kaden took my toy... kaden is crying.. kaden is being mean... kaden is peeing... kaden wont share... kaden's mean... kaden hit me"... Kaden is my DS.. and even tho i usually do punish him, by the end of the day- i'm like ugh- shut the F up! stop tattling!

[mysteriousmom06]

Just so you know, your not alone. My kids are almost 11, 9, & 4-all they do all day long is complain about each other. They every try to piss the other one off, in the hopes they will do something wrong just so they can tattle on each other. So believe me when I tell you, I understand how annoying it is.

Honestly, I just ignore them. If it get really bad I try to come up with some fun (for me) punishment; hugging in the corner, following me around & not playing, etc.

Its just a phase, that's probably going to last until they get old enough to start completely ignoring each other.

[ronandamy1]

 For constantly tattling

Quoting lovinmyboys...:

 I'm confused as to what you are disciplining her for.  Is it because she's tattling or complaining? 

 

[Sassy762]

 She will grow out of it.....I personally think its a "girl" thing.......all 5 of mine did this, lol  Just buy some ear plugs /turn up the music and tune them out.  OR you could make her go and kiss and hug the one she is tattling or complaining about, lol

Things will get better

[Keegansmama05]

Well everytime she tattles, on something that's a chore, make her do the chore. Like Macie didn't replace the paper towels, then make her replace the paper towels. So and so took my toy, then take one her toys. Eventually she'll get it. Macie didn't pick up her toys... then make HER pick up Macie's toys. 

[iamcafemom83]

have you talked to her about the difference between complaining and letting an adult know if she should let them know about something serious, more serious than someone forgetting to flush the toilet? i think she just needs a 'filter', ya know what i mean? so  maybe if u go over that with her, the next time she is needlessly tattling/complaining you can correct her.

[AllAboutYou1223]

 Tell her if nobody is hurt or bleeding to keep it to herself! LOL That's what I do when my son and his cousins keep telling on eachother.

[De_Chick]

Talk to her once again about what is appropriate tattling and what is not. Explain to her that she does not need to always tattle about every little thing that goes on and that sometimes people forget to do something, like put paper towel out, and its really not the end of the world. Give her twenty nickels and tell her that every time she tattles about something that is not appropriate, she will have to give you a nickle. Whatever she has left at the end of the week, or three days or whatever you think is good, she can keep. I did that with my son and he learned perfectly from it. He was a tattle tale from hell when he was little so I can really relate.