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[scaredoflabor]

 So hubby's brother Decided he wants to babtize My daughter on her 2nd bday. He told my hubby he is doing it! My hubby says if you pay for it thats fine and his brother said Ill pay for some. Now where was I in this conversation? No clue but this is the first Ive heard.

Now there is no issue with them wanting to do this BUT Im not catholic! Im christian. Hubby Is not catholic either. He believes theres a god but thats it. He says he does not care as long as she gets babtized.

I do not want her to be babtized as catholic. I have told them this but they dont care. They said they are going to do it anyways. And hubby sides with them. He says its rude not to and as long as it gets done then good. I tell him I want a christian babtizim and he said its to late his brother is doing it.

The other issue is that I dont speak nor do I understand spanish. Im learning but its hard. so im gettingthere but not enough to understand whats being said! So my entire family who does not speak spanish have to watch this and not understand. I told him what about a translator he said that is offencive!!! WTF.

So can she be babtized in both catholic and christian? or does that not work? Im fighting it every minute but Im not getting anywere. I dont want to make a big deal over this but Im her mother!!! I dont want this. But it will be very rude to have them do everything and not go. I told them I dont want it but they said they will do it anyways and Ill come around. I dont want bashing that my husband is an idiot or anything ok. I just want to know what to do.

His family does not listen to me or even talk to me when I go to there house. they all talk in spanish and ignore me even though they all speak engish!

[jillbailey26]

I think it's very rude to baptize someone else's child without their consent. 

To your question.  Catholics are Christian, so either way, she would be baptized as a Christian, under the Catholic denomination.  When she's older, you can let her decide whether she wants to be baptized on her own free will in a non-Catholic ceremony.

I'm not Catholic, but I believe that the parents have to take classes and do all kinds of stuff before baptizing their baby.  Do you know what church they want to do it in?  Do you know the priest that will be performing the baptism?  If so, go talk directly to them and let them know your situation.

[periwinkle163]

Catholics are Christians.

[ranchmommy]

By the sounds of it your in a tough situation.  Mexican families are tough to break into and Mexican Catholic families are even harder.  I am not mexican but I grew up in a family that is, so first of all good luck. 
As for babtizing her twice, the catholic church only recognises one babtizim and in its eyes to babtize the baby in anouther church would be a sin.  Yes as the pp said most parishes require classes with the parents and the god parents to discuss raising the child as a cotholic.  Now by the sounds of it your in laws are part of a mexican parish which makes things a little different. 

But here is the deal, you need to sit down with your DH and tell him how you feel. You are the mother and have final say.  If this is not what you want, if you do not want your child to be raised catholic you need to put your foot down and say no.

Good luck mamma !!

[AutymsMommy]

This.

I am Catholic.

At least one parent has to be a practicing Catholic and yes, both parents must take classes... during the baptism the parents are asked to promise to raise their child in The Church and according to church beliefs....

Quoting jillbailey26:

I think it's very rude to baptize someone else's child without their consent. 

To your question.  Catholics are Christian, so either way, she would be baptized as a Christian, under the Catholic denomination.  When she's older, you can let her decide whether she wants to be baptized on her own free will in a non-Catholic ceremony.

I'm not Catholic, but I believe that the parents have to take classes and do all kinds of stuff before baptizing their baby.  Do you know what church they want to do it in?  Do you know the priest that will be performing the baptism?  If so, go talk directly to them and let them know your situation.

[jillbailey26]

Yea, I knew you couldn't just bring a random baby and say "Here, baptize this kid."  LOL

Quoting AutymsMommy:

This.

I am Catholic.

At least one parent has to be a practicing Catholic and yes, both parents must take classes... during the baptism the parents are asked to promise to raise their child in The Church and according to church beliefs....

Quoting jillbailey26:

I think it's very rude to baptize someone else's child without their consent. 

To your question.  Catholics are Christian, so either way, she would be baptized as a Christian, under the Catholic denomination.  When she's older, you can let her decide whether she wants to be baptized on her own free will in a non-Catholic ceremony.

I'm not Catholic, but I believe that the parents have to take classes and do all kinds of stuff before baptizing their baby.  Do you know what church they want to do it in?  Do you know the priest that will be performing the baptism?  If so, go talk directly to them and let them know your situation.

[AutymsMommy]

Nope, lol.

We had to present proof of practice in a parish (because we were having our youngest baptised in a different church than we practice in), we had to take classes, we had to coordinate paperwork for the Godparents to turn in, we had to meet with the Priest and the Deacon... not an easy process.

Quoting jillbailey26:

Yea, I knew you couldn't just bring a random baby and say "Here, baptize this kid."  LOL

Quoting AutymsMommy:

This.

I am Catholic.

At least one parent has to be a practicing Catholic and yes, both parents must take classes... during the baptism the parents are asked to promise to raise their child in The Church and according to church beliefs....

Quoting jillbailey26:

I think it's very rude to baptize someone else's child without their consent. 

To your question.  Catholics are Christian, so either way, she would be baptized as a Christian, under the Catholic denomination.  When she's older, you can let her decide whether she wants to be baptized on her own free will in a non-Catholic ceremony.

I'm not Catholic, but I believe that the parents have to take classes and do all kinds of stuff before baptizing their baby.  Do you know what church they want to do it in?  Do you know the priest that will be performing the baptism?  If so, go talk directly to them and let them know your situation.

 

[ballerina18]

What about doing a Cathoilc Blessing? It could be a good compromise and you could still get her baptised elsewhere?

[CosmicPossum]

Why is it rude for an interpreter to interpret into English what is being said.  We have interpreters for our Spanish speaking brothers and sisters in my church and none of we English speakers think it's rude.

Rude is when you baptize someone's child without their full consent.

[zezzawoman]

Did they forget your the mother,lol. I didn't baptize my children. when they grow up they can choose what religion they would like to be baptized in. I'm christian and was baptized catholic but i don't follow it.

[AutymsMommy]

It seems to be a running agreement on here that Catholics aren't Christians. Lol.

We are.