Damn Husband (a vent)

[AMom29]

So I've expressed my challenges with weaning my 2-yr-old off his beloved bottle.

Anyway...

Thought I was making progress...gave him a bottle of water prior to his nap (next to a cup of milk) and HE TOOK IT!  Yeah, progress!

So, I put him to bed tonight without one, seemed fine.  About 10 mins later he started complaining (it's kinda like a cry since he doesn't really speak yet) but I was in the middle of taking some boxes out to the curb (since my husband didn't do it when I asked him to 3 days ago) and hubby was in the bathroom.  I thought, well I'm going to make him a sugar water bottle when I get back, he can wait a few minutes.

I come in, hubby is putting dishes in dishwasher, so I thanked him for doing that for me.  Went to wash my hands, and noticed the bottle was missing off the counter.  I asked him where it was, and he said he gave to DS.  With milk?  Well, yeah....

GRRRRRRRRRR.  Now I'm probably going to have to start all over again.

I tell him how upset I am and why.  He says, "What's the big deal?  It's only a bottle.  Who cares?"

So I told him that, at this point,  I don't care if he has a bottle until he's 20; it's just that the woman always gets blamed.  They don't question the parenting skills of the guys -- it's always the mothers who are bashed. 

{sigh...}

[MixedCooke]

You should switch one bottle a week to sippy cup or regular cup.  You should give him the milk prior to bed (as in after his bath and then give the milk and take him to potty and brush his teeth so the sugar does not stay on his teeth) and not give sugar water or you will be visiting the dentist sooner than you like.  You may just want to go cold turkey from this point on though from the botthle.  A delay in dropping the bottle will later require a visit to the orthodontist for braces.  I am more concerned that at 2 he does not talk rather than the bottle issue though.

Yeah my husband has delayed all of her transitions!  He has been harder to wean than her!

[KokoJones]

i wouldn't do the sugar water. i ditto the dentist deal... to break my dd2 of bottles i just cold turkey changed all her babas to sippys and she dealt with it... as for the not talking thing, i wouldn't worry just yet... my four year old didnt really talk til she was three and a half... but when she started man, she was speakin full sentences... she was more of an observer... didn't help she had an older sister who liked to speak for her lol

[insunshine]

Quoting MixedCooke:

 A delay in dropping the bottle will later require a visit to the orthodontist for braces.  I am more concerned that at 2 he does not talk rather than the bottle issue though.

You are concerned? Are you a doctor? She isnt asking about her son not talking at 2! Not all children develop at your child's pace!

No, you aren't neccesarily going to be going to an orthodontist for braces because at 2 he still has a thing for bottles. You re not a bad mom, a mom is a woman who concerns herself with others peoples children she has never met and has to spit her nastiness out.

[m0ml0v3s2]

 since the day my baby got teeth nothing but water in bed bottle rot is horrible to go through 1 friend is just going through it and 1 just spent 600 for new front teeth for thier 3 yodd, not something I want to do. I have no suggestions other than cold turkey it worked for us the first few days were rough but it got easy again fast like before the week was out she was over it.

[quellhorst]

I know this is a vent and I have to tell you. DH did that with my oldest DD when I took her off the bottle he hid some from me and would give them to her when she was in bed and try to hide it from me. I always found out about it and I would get sooo angry. And the worst part is she wouldnt ask for them, he just felt sorry for her that at a year old I told her no more bottle! She weaned very easy. As for my dd now she is 9 months and will not touch a sippy.

Good luck and I hope it makes you feel better that my DH gave DD bottles too. Men are big old stinky baby butts.

[villafrancomom]

 We just switched my DS cold turkey. However he was off the bottle when he was 1 year old exactly. He did fine. We used a soft nipple sippy cup as his first  cup so it wouldn't be too different... he is now on hard sippy cups and regular cups. he is 14 months old. I suggest just taking it away but use a soft nipple sippy cup. my DH was opposite with you. his theory was "when he gets thristy enough he'll drink from it". Luckily DS didn't mind the soft nipple sippy.