Is Being A Single Mom A Choice? **EDIT***

[that_1_mommy]

In another post, someone said that being a single mom was a choice.

I was a single mom for 4 years and I find that statement to be absolutely ludacris. I didn't CHOOSE to become a single mom....

What do you think?

EDIT:

I'm not talking in terms of things like marriage. I'm talking in term of being single (no boyfriend, husband, nothing), just you and the kids. That's what I consider a single mother.

[jillbailey26]

In legal matters, it could be.  When you're not married, you're considered single.  Some women choose to not get married.

In relationship terms, I don't think women CHOOSE to be single, but sometimes have to break up with a boyfriend (or whatever) because it's what is best for their family.

[ktwister]

It can go either way.  It's not always a choice but one you were throwin into.

For me it was a choice, a choice I knew the moment I got pregnant, either not keep the baby or become a single mother.

[busymomma75]

Need to add a "SOMETIMES" vote

[LovinMy2Girlz]

I would say it depends on the woman and her relationship.. Some women do choose to be a single parent.. while others don't...

[serioussifL]

It could be a choice, if they choose to be a single parent. And its not a choice if their partner leaves/dies.

[stefvan]

 Well, if you choose not to be married then aren't you choosing to be single?  Maybe I'm missing something.

[zoeysmom331]

 I think some women do. I know a woman who, after her divorce, wanted a child desperately so she *somehow* convinced her ex to get her pregnant, She even let him sign his rights away immediately after birth. She chose to be a single mother because she wanted a child. I'm not saying its the case all the time, but yes, there are women who choose to be single mothers.

[Avabliss]

I am sure that it is sometimes and other times not.

This is not black and white.  I voted other.

[Kylie819]

Well, for some it is and for some it isn't.  Some moms choose to get a divorce, choose to leave their boyfriend,, choose to go to a sperm bank and a raise a baby alone, choose to have a friend "help" them get knocked up.  Some moms are left by their husband or BFand had no choice in the matter.  It depends on the situation.  I didn't choose for my SO to leave me when I was pregnant with DD but I did choose her when he made an ultimatum - him or her.  I picked her without hesitation and never looked back. 

[EllaBeansMom]

I did choose to be a single mom...I got pregnant by choice (no man, donated stuff :) ) and I am raising my daughter on my own.  It was all my own choice from the beginning.  So, in some cases, yes, you can choose to be a single mom.