I am at the end of my rope....please help!!

[SnowKitty76]

Hi everyone. I am pregnant, Due July 24Th with our third child and am sooo
stressed out with my Mother-in-law.  I dont really need this kind of issue
right now either since I have blood pressure issues that started a few months
after my second son was born.  My Mother-in-law hates me for some strange
reason and won't spend any time with her two grandsons.  We have to take the
boys to see her just to get her to spend any time with them.  She says terrible
things about me to my husband all the time. For Example: "I was waiting for her
to say the fresh air made her sick..." and all because I said that taking my 8
year old son to the bus stop where there are lots of car fumes makes me sick.
I would get gut wrenching sick every time I took him up there during the winter
every single time.  After the last bought of insults to me I couldn't hold back
the tears, at least my hubby sticks up for me all the time.  We have finally had
the last straw.  We have decided to avoid his mother as much as we can. 
Especially after my 3 1/2 year old started crying to see the grandmother that
never wants to be with him and my oldest started crying that he wanted to move
back south to a grandmother that loves him.  He even said he doesn't care about
anything else (daddy's good job, better education,etc.) but getting back to the
grandmother (my mom) that loves him and wants him.  He just wants to be loved
by grandma again.  I don't know what to do anymore about this and cant think
of any other way to deal with this anymore.  What would you do?

[nemiller]

i cut ties with her until she's willing to be a positive part of your lives.  it stresses you out and hurts your children... i don't think the answer is very complicated.  it sucks that she's such a bitch about it, but you can't change her.  you can only change how you deal with it.